Emotional punchbag

[BestieNo1]

Is your partner lovely to everyone else but then his “true” nasty and narky self to you? Mine has family problems and he is always nice to the kids but can never hold it together and be nice to me. He’s often a bit of a wanker to be honest but am getting very tired of it and thinking of moving out when my son turns 18 in 12 months time. I just want to be free and not have to think of anyone’s moods which turn on me.
Don’t like him at the moment.

Life is too short to live with an abusive man that doesn’t respect or care for you. Get your ducks in a row, you’ve got 12 months to plan and prepare for moving out. And if possible, don’t even wait that long…

There is no way my husband uses me as an emotional punchbag and I'm sorry yours does. Living with someone who is moody is a nightmare. Yes I would be ending this situation. Meanwhile, why not try protecting yourself very subtlety, by doing things like having early nights away from him, long baths away from him, dog walks, having to go out for the afternoon to a nice pub with a log fire on and taking a book, doing cleaning in other rooms when he is there, then cooking and leaving him elsewhere, then a long bath and film in bed? x Meanwhile planning your escape and starting it, really.

@BestieNo1 Why wait? Start the process now.

Abuse is not love. Not ever. He doesn't love or respect you so why should you pander to him?

Leave and go live your life free of a person who pulls your down and diminishes your light just because he is weak, selfish and jealous.

Be brave and make the break sooner rather than later. Another year of abuse will only emotionally damage you (and in turn any child living under this roof) further.

And why wait also till your son is 18 and then further pull the rug out from under him?. He is not going to say thanks mum for staying with your abuser. He could well call you daft for staying. He likely knows your partner is abusive .

What is the situation re the property?.
Get support too from Women’s Aid and friends/family and plan your exit with care.