Ex husband trying to take the children

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Morning! Has any mother accused of abusing her childrenbeen able to keep them?

Social services have been involved at my request for years. I'd like to have that conversation beucase it is desperate...the abusive alcoholic ex kept us isolated and we are still recovering. Then filed for divorce and coerced me into into signing it and basically planned his exit in secret. This was 3 years ago.

He's spend 3 years trying to build a case and ensure that he can make it look like I am the cause of all of his problems. He afforded himself a house rental nearly 2 hours away. I allowed access to the children but hes jist tried to frame me for issues. He has cause so much destabalisatuon becuase I have been too sad to be the reason for the kids not to have the good influence from having a father's love regularly. However, it isnt love if hes exercised this to be vengeful and turn them against me and ignore my concerns.

I have refused to sell the house. So he thearened me with my life infront of the children in a special trip, literally they ran down the drive begging to say hello.

I told the police. Then they didn't provide records of help protect me and I was told I missed the deadline for and NMO.

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Hello @Createafuture we're just moving your thread over to Relationships.

Have you spoken to a solicitor

I have been phoning around all week. You het a free half hour but no specialist advice it seems. Apparantly the law recently changed that if you have a certain amount of captial in the house then you automatically dont qualify, even though we had to flee the hpuse because he stalked it and kept letting himself in when we werent there and wjen we were, ha paced around.

You need to speak to women’s aid who have specialist solicitors. There is legal aid for domestic violence depending on your circumstances.

Rights of Women give free legal advice to women in abusive situations.
Are you in the uk ?
There is a different one for Scotland: Scottish Women’s Rights Centre.
Speak to Women’s Aid too.

Thanks - one firm I have contacted who seem best placed, have not yet found a way to get passed the figures, we have a jointly owned house in dispute, the one that he is now using the issues from not supporting to get to via a safeguarding Section 7 report. I think it looks like it is over £100K in asset if divided 50/50 which is the threshold. So, I might be able to explain some of the figures in dispute but waiting to hear from the solicitor. I can't afford them. So gutted, he's done it before Christmas, on top of the financial order knowing he might have not been given a clean break. I have school applications going on, EHCP, tutors online for Austistic middle one and the youngest saying she is being bullied at school. Social Services were really easily charmed by the ex and he's cleverly sat back and watched his undermining and cocerciveness, not paying the mortgage, whisperign doubt about me to the children and fishing for anything to report behind my back. I think they called it post-seperation abuse.