Bit of a back story. Me and my OH have 2 young children. I have PTSD from birth trauma and recently diagnosed adenomyosis. My sex drive has been low over the last few years but so has my husbands, things have been improving a little. As we have begun being intimate again he has not made any attempts to help me finish and its over very quickly. Recently I had an horrible ordeal at a&e getting a lost coil removed with lots of examinations and procedures etc which were very triggering and difficult. I went through it all alone as OH was home with the kids. I got back at 9pm after the consultant managed to get it out and then got up at 6am to go and work a 12 hour shift as a nurse. When I got home I put the kids to bed and fell asleep on the sofa, OH left me there. When I woke up around midnight I came to bed and he tried to initiate sx. I explained i was 100% not in the mood, exhausted, felt funny still after all the procedures, no contraception in now and just wasnt the time, felt gross hadn't even had the energy to brush my teeth. He flew off the handle and went into a huge sulk saying he isn't a freak for wanting to have sx and its what normal people in relationships want to do. He pressed himself to me for a while and tried to encourage me to be intimate but I really didnt want too and he then snapped at me and rolled over in a huff. Hes in a huge sulk this morning and snapping at me, rolling his eyes etc. I feel so sad. He only wants to lie on top of me for 2 mins then roll over and go to sleep but I just really didnt want to last night I was beyond tired and out of it from all the medications id had to get the coil out including codeine, morphine and diazepam.
Just curious as to whether others OH put pressure on them this way. It doesnt feel nice.