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Is he cheating

22 replies

Missy0901 · 22/11/2025 00:49

I’m new here I got suspicion about my boyfriend and a work colleague of his actually a couple of them and I would like know if anyone wants to know details and maybe give advice
this one girl lives near him 10 mins away she has kids and a bf she said where she lived she also messaged his WhatsApp outside the work chat asking him to come in early once she put all laughing faces etc he replied but at the time this happened I was not with him he was at gym he told me but he lied and didn’t say truth what was said he wanted to show me messages to my face I didn’t want to see them when he did it was what she put laughing faces asking him to come in his response bothers me he said he just put no actually he put no sorry I am at gym lol he put lol back now I said u didn’t need to put that lol or back or explain where u are
i said u told me they are not alllowes to message outside group chat yet when ever we talk about this girl he gets so defensive over her slipped up once saying he calls her mckenzie
also that day she messaged when he went to work she said bet u got me saved as a middle finger he said I didn’t reply then another talk he said he did reply saying no no I said one she was interested to know if u saved her wrong and two u should of said ur a work colleague I don’t need to save u he said that is what he wanted to say but if he did she could go to manager buy then said if another girl colleague did same he would report it
also he was talking to the bloke colleague after an argument work me she apparrently overheard and heard him say she thinks I’m a player and then said to him when ur with ur gf next I’ll ring u he said he didn’t reply I said u should of told her no and her saying that is to wind me up now why would I not be worried ??? Also a customer once said to them when they was on shift together are u a couple why would a customer say that ???

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TheBroonOneAndTheWhiteOne · 22/11/2025 00:54

Hello. It does sound like he's cheating.
I had some trouble reading your post but I got the general gist.

(Maybe try using full stops and paragraphs)

But anyway - yes, he's got a lot of explaining to do. I'd be making plans to end things with him.

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TheBroonOneAndTheWhiteOne · 22/11/2025 00:56

Are you living together and have you got any children?

Have you been together long?

Missy0901 · 22/11/2025 00:57

Sorry I struggle with this

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Missy0901 · 22/11/2025 00:58

No and no and a year and a month I just want opinions on am I right in saying what she has done is wrong or he is in wrong and why do people think he cheating after what I explained I am not good with this sorry

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MissyPants · 22/11/2025 00:59

Sorry but all this sounds extremely school childish, how old are you both?
Sounds like she is attracted to him, it is a possibility he could be cheating, or maybe she just likes him.
If you don't trust him then you don't have anything, find out if he is cheating, if he is then just get rid.

Missy0901 · 22/11/2025 01:00

Well I’m not Childish I been hurt in past and come here for opinions and advice

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Missy0901 · 22/11/2025 01:02

She has a partner as I said and he picks her up from work
my bf also said other day he came in made sure she couldn’t hear and said to my bf I think she is either talking to someone else or seeing someone else
I said well he asking u for a reason he thinks it you wanted to see your reaction he was like no no
he said if she ever message anything inappropriate or anything crossing line he would go straight to her bf tell him
he said his loyalty lies with him

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MissyPants · 22/11/2025 01:04

Your post is all over the place, how old are you?
Just seems very immature talking about people not being able to message outside of work groups etc.

Missy0901 · 22/11/2025 01:05

When he told me they wouldn’t and it’s a sackable offence and any chat about work is in work chat ???
so why not ask him in chat
his reply was oh they don’t all want there phones going off

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Missy0901 · 22/11/2025 01:06

I’m sorry if my post is all over place or hard to understand I am nervous as I am new here so pls just understand that I’m out my comfort zone here

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Missy0901 · 22/11/2025 01:15

But what makes u say that ?

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Missy0901 · 22/11/2025 01:46

I was only looking for opinions and to see if what I saying is right etc what she done wrong or him

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Stillpoor · 22/11/2025 01:51

Im struggling to understand any of this.
My advice for what i can make out of it, is to split up neither of you seem ready to be adults.
Its all just sillyness childish play.

Stillpoor · 22/11/2025 01:53

Missy0901 · 22/11/2025 01:15

But what makes u say that ?

You have to click quote to quote that person.
As we dont know who you are asking.

Missy0901 · 22/11/2025 02:01

Stillpoor · 22/11/2025 01:53

You have to click quote to quote that person.
As we dont know who you are asking.

Sorry im new here haha thank you

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Missy0901 · 22/11/2025 02:03

Stillpoor · 22/11/2025 01:51

Im struggling to understand any of this.
My advice for what i can make out of it, is to split up neither of you seem ready to be adults.
Its all just sillyness childish play.

It may be hard to understand what I’ve put I can’t edit it but hoping someone will be able to underhand and give advice opinion
as this is what this is for here

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Missy0901 · 22/11/2025 02:04

I understand people are struggling with my post but if u can pls take time to read slowly and try to understand would appreciate it as this is new to me and I am reaching out I don’t have the option to edit it or I would

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BuckChuckets · 22/11/2025 11:25

Missy0901 · 22/11/2025 02:04

I understand people are struggling with my post but if u can pls take time to read slowly and try to understand would appreciate it as this is new to me and I am reaching out I don’t have the option to edit it or I would

Can you maybe try again with paragraphs, punctuation etc?

Claricecannotsleep · 22/11/2025 11:26

Punctuation is your friend.

Stillpoor · 22/11/2025 12:40

BuckChuckets · 22/11/2025 11:25

Can you maybe try again with paragraphs, punctuation etc?

Yep.

TheBroonOneAndTheWhiteOne · 22/11/2025 14:10

@Missy0901 it doesn't sound like you trust him.
It also sounds like he enjoys the attention from this McKenzie woman.

I'd end things with him. You deserve to be treated better.

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