About to leave

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I'm about to leave a long time marriage for the love of my life. The divorce will finalise in a few months but I'm not waiting. I'm moving in with him now. The thing is I'm not telling anyone. I'm so happy. But it's all in secret until my divorce is finalised. It feels a bit odd that not a single soul knows about it and no one will know where I'm living. I have to lie, of course, to achieve this.

Good on you.

So you had an affair ?

How about giving yourself time to breath, heal and think before jumping into a new relationship first? Unless of course you were having affair while married.

Do you think it will last? Relationships that started as an affair often don’t, as the trust is a struggle

How long have you known “the love of your life”? I’d really have a think about whether they’re worth the lying to and alienating yourself from family and friends for to the extend that you aren’t going to tell anyone where you’re living and will be having distance yourself emotionally from those close to you to keep up the lies.

Relationships frequently go tits up, when you move in together and are dealing with the reality of navigating laundry and money rather than just the romantic bits. If this is an affair partner and it’s previously been a lot of heady sneaked encounters and very little “real life”, it’s all the more likely. You’re going to need the support of your friends and family if that happens; reconsider the secrecy you’re doing all this with.

Why? It sounds like OP has an affair and is moving in with the affair partner before she's divorced. She hasn't said her husband is abusive. Each to their own but this wouldn't be a good for you moment for me.

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