Women live in a very different world from men, so it is false equivalence to equate women's justified concerns about men to the whining of men about women not fucking them enough or "nagging" them to contribute equally to the household labour.
On average, men are twice as strong in the arms and a third stronger in the legs than women. On average, a woman will not be able to fight off a determined attack from a man. Women learn quickly in life that men are physically dangerous, either from direct experience and/or from watching the aggression of men towards others. They see the appeasing behaviour of women towards men from their own mothers and other women around them. They see that men get away with sexual violence towards them and other women most of the time: only 5% of reported rapes in the UK are prosecuted; only half of those perpetrators are convicted; and on average the perpetrators will only serve 3 years of their 9 year prison sentence. Women see that men are almost unique in their heinous capacity for family annihilation - witness recent cases where a father tied up his 3 little daughters' hands with cable ties and suffocated them, or burned his wife and children to death in a car by dousing them with petrol.
Men are not afraid of women hitting them, or raping them, or killing them, or killing their children. Men don't get sexually harassed and looked at like a piece of uncovered meat from the age of 7. Men don't grow up afraid of walking at night or on an isolated beach or going to a public restroom.
The physical danger men pose to women is so profound and so systemic that it shapes everything women do. We're forced to centralise men because they are a real and significant threat to us and we're scared of them.
We're also coming out from centuries of brutal systemic oppression of women, where women had few legal rights and were completely economically dependent on men. They had no redress if their husband beat them or raped them. They had to stay silent and endure. If they spoke up or resisted, they were killed, banished without access to their children, even stuck in an insane asylum and lobotomised, generally shunned by the community, and forced into complete poverty.
And sex is a completely different ballgame for women than it is for men. Women run a serious risk of physical injury and disease when they have sex. Sex leads to pregnancy and childbirth, which can kill women or leave them with permanent and life-changing physical injuries: a third of women who give birth will have persistent urinary incontinence, 10% will have persistent fecal incontinence, and 10% will require treatment for pelvic prolapse in their lifetime. And thank god abortion is legal now - which it was NOT for a very long time and these rights to essential female healthcare are being rolled back as we speak - but many women feel grief at having to have an abortion, a burden that is neither felt nor considered by the many men who do all they can to trick, cajole, guilt, coerce, and force women into having unprotected sex. Sex also comes with the risk of STIs, which disproportionately affect women physically: women are three times more likely to be infected, much more likely to become infertile because of STIs, and untreated STIs - many of which are silent, especially in women - can cause very significant long term health problems in women such as pelvic inflammatory disease, chronic pain, and cancer: on average, women lose 44 times more quality-adjusted life years to chlamydia, gonorrhoea, and trichomoniasis than men.
Women are also often literally left holding the baby when they do have children. One in four families in the UK are single-parent families; 90% of these headed by women; and 46% of men in the UK who should be paying child support do not. That equals significant and large scale economic disenfranchisement of women, because kids are expensive. It is also a major cause of child poverty: if men paid up, 60% of the single-parent households that are in poverty in the UK today wouldn't be in poverty.
Then we have the orgasm gap, where 95% of men and 65% of women usually or always orgasm in every sexual encounter.
Then we have the inequity in household labour, where full-time working women spend 10 hours a week on household work compared to 5 hours for full-time working men. This is time stolen by men from women.
And the childcare gap: women in the US spend 5 hours a day with their children vs 3 hours a day for men. And that's not considering the mental labour that is disproportionately on women: in terms of the SELF-reported contribution to the daily domestic cognitive labour involved in parenting, mothers do 79% and the fathers do 37%.
And the fact that 31% of men with a sick wife leave her vs 3% of women with a sick husband leave him.
I could go on and on.
It is false equivalence to equate the relational difficulties that women have with men to the relational difficulties that men have with women. This is not a case of "they're both to blame". There is a major problem with the way men have been socialised, there is a major problem with how they get away with violence and aggression against women, there is a major problem with the way they view and treat women, there is a major problem with how much misery and hardship they cause women and children.