I love my ex but to what end?

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Dear all.

this is an edited repost now I’ve had time to think and taken various calmy downy pills.

About 3 months ago after a 13:year relationship my (unmarried) partner left me and she moved in with a builder up the road. she comes back every day in the week and works from home. we jointly own the house with no mortgage. they do not have internet in the builder’s house - no furniture no tv, nothing. every day she asks me if I'd like to watch something at lunchtime 'it'll be all cosy and nice" and we do - and it upsets me but I put on a happy face and live in hope she'll come back to me. she spends time with me every day but still goes up to him at night. in a particularly upset moment last week I said 'all I can think of is you two having sex up there every night' she replied quitefirmly "sex? there's no sex going on up there I can assure you! what am I to do? i love her so much but she does so much to hurt me. on the one hand I think I should carry on and hope she'll come back on the other i feel like cutting her off from my life so i can move on. We’ve been out walking and watching movies today all day and when she left I said ”please will you come back to me” and her answer? ‘I don’t know’.
please help.

This one's a lost cause.

If you sat by and watched as she shacked up with her sexy builder, and she comes back every day to use your internet, it's safe to say she doesn't fancy you (never mind respect you).

She's lying when she says there's no sex with Mr Builder. And even if she's not, my first paragraph still applies.

This is heartbreaking, you need space to recover your heart and she needs space to work out what she really wants moving forward. I would put some boundaries in place and quickly as this is not right.

I think you need to sell the house, split the money and move on with your life. She is treating you appallingly and it's a big mistake to want her back. She knows she's hurting you and yet revels in coming to the house every day and keeping you dangling on a string. Do yourself a favour and move on from this - you deserve better.

You need to put a stop to this OP. She's being cruel, playing with your feelings and openly hurting you as she knows you want her back. Even if she came back you'd have the cheating scenario in your head.
Stop the cosy lunches, minimise contact with her and stop pleading with her to return.
Sell the house ASAP and move on. You would never be able to trust her again.