Dating after domestic abuse. Do I put the breaks on.

[CoconutSky]

Been talking to a guy I met OLD since late August.

Met up with him end of September for a date. We both have kids and jobs so see eachother around 2 times a week.

We’ve had some good dates, going for walks, drinks, sleepovers. Slept together like 4 times.

Both not seeing other people.

I’m new to the dating world after my last relationship ended in 2022. Ex was abusive and I’ve had to work on myself.

We speak daily and this guy says he likes me, hopes for a relationship with me however it’s something that he wants to “let happen naturally but hopes we do get to that point” He has told friends and family that he’s dating me.

I have never heard this term before. Am I being strung along for an FWB or is this the reality of non toxic dating? I’ve only ever known love bombing so it’s all new to me

It's hard after the previous love bombing, it makes him seem less interested. In reality this sounds quite hopeful to me Op, he doesn't want either of you to rush into anything which is a good sign, he wants to go on seeing you but for your feelings for each other to grow over time.
I'd be far more worried by a man who talks moving in and eternal love after a few dates, as you've found out those men don't have any real feelings for you and just want to use and abuse you.