Age gap worries

[Shootingstar1111]

I met my partner in August, at first I was reluctant to go on a date as he is 27 and me 37. I decided that a bit of fun wouldn't hurt and decided to go.. fast forward to now and I can say hand on heart I have never been happier. Nobody has ever made me feel so valued and loved.

I have 2 children and he has a daughter, we are both on the same page in not wanting anymore. We get on amazingly and this is the healthiest relationship I have ever been in.

He is a romantic at heart, he says as far as he is concerned he will never want anyone else.

I know it is early days but I am falling head over heels, I just worry that the age gap will be an issue in years to come. I look quite young for my age and he is quite rugged so you wouldn't know unless we told you.

Any success stories with age gaps?

My husband is 11 years older than me, weve been together 22 years. Its not something I even think about unless its due to a cultural (often music or tv show related) reference from 80s/90s which is the era where our age gap wouldve been most apparent (we met in 2003). During the late 2000s i worked with a lady whose husband was the same age as mine but she was 11 years older than him so we were 22 years difference in age but with the same age husbands which we always laughed about. She was also happy and secure in her relationship like me which is the most important thing.

My husband is 9 years younger than me. We met when he was 26 and I was 35.
we have been together for nearly 23 years now, married for over 21 and have two wonderful daughters.
I don’t even think about me be older now.
I wouldn’t worry about it if you are happy x

This .

I'm 8 years older than my husband and we've been married for 29 years. My best friend is 18 years older than her husband and they've been married 25 years.

I think age gaps only really become and issue when wanting / not wanting kids is involved. But if you both have kids and don't want anymore... then it's not an issue.

I met my husband when I was 26 and he was 45. I had reservations about age but decided what did I have to lose by going on a few dates.
Thirty-three years later we've been married fro 28 years and have two wonderful children. He is now 78 and I am coming up to 60 and we are still going strong.

Just enjoy being happy.if you both have the same outlook on life, there's no issues. I dated a guy 6 years my junior when I was in my mid 50s, didn't last. He looks years older than me now.

Yes! Me! Same gap. We met when I was 34 and he was 24. Neither of us had children, but we are still together 17 years on, married with two kids. Still madly in love and we built an amazing life together. I feel very lucky.

Yet nobody would bat an eyelid at a man dating a woman 10 years younger. If you're both happy I wouldn't worry what others think. My ex husband is 37 I'm 42. He's now in a relationship with a 59 year old and has been with her for over 3 years.

The only concerns about age gap relationships tend to come from other people.

My DH is older than me and for most of our marriage it has not bothered me at all. Now he is approaching retirement, it’s starting to cause issues. I don’t want to retire, he does, we still have a mortgage and teen kids. It suddenly feels as though I live with an old man.
if I were you, I would talk about this now. How you will manage if you want different things, what you hope for etc. you can’t hold one another to it as you never know what will happen, but at least talk about it now.

I assumed you just wanted to hear from woman with younger partners/husbands. I don't think you would need to worry about a guy 10 years younger having ED frankly. In the main, MN is weird about age gaps. My DH is 7 years younger than me. His brother was bitchy about it, said the man ought to be older (guess who has the happiest marriage!!) we've been together 36 years, married 26. My kids adore him, he spent yesterday making my oldest DDs flat pack furniture. She is only 13 years younger than him. We're on the same page with politics, religion, our upbringing was completely different, his mother walked out when he was 7,big family. I was an only child, rural upbringing,him London, but we all joke,he has become a complete country bumpkin. He didn't have kids, managed one, just before the menopause. My late DM was older than my Father, his mum was older than his dad

26 years married, together 30. DH 10 years younger

There’s 10 years between me and DH. It didn’t show until he got to his mid 50’s, now the age gap seems bigger every year.

i think seeing as you both have children it’s not a problem.

10 years is not a huge age gap When you are at the same stage in life.

it can feel like a very big gap if one partner has children as they have had a whole lot of ‘life’ that the other hasn’t. Particularly if they want the 20-something to slot into a parental role very quickly, and if the younger one is keen for their ‘own’ children.

i have a couple of women in my social social sphere in their early thirties who are dealing with a lot of grief from being with divorced dads 10 years older. 33 and 43 should be fine- but it feels like a large gap because of their experiences.

My Mum was 7 years older than my Dad and that worked fine. As long as the man is mature enough, it will be fine now, though I can see that he might feel differently when you’re 75 and 65 - unfortunately my Dad died at 62 so we didn’t get to that point.

Im 12 years older than DP and we've been together 13 years since I was 43.

I had 3 kids by 27 it’s an average age for settling down, she’s 37 not a hundred

I’m 17 years older than my partner we have a 5 year old son together and I have 3 adult children. We are perfectly happy and have the most normal drama free relationship of anyone we know. The age gap isnt something we think about.