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Leaving newborn with ex H

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Mumto21234 · 18/11/2025 22:34

Myself and my husband separated in summer. We have a toddler, and now a newborn. Have been discussing more consistent routine re him seeing kids, with this looking like EOW, being built up to over time. He has had newborn overnight whilst I slept, albeit he has been in the same house as me, and he has had them both together for an hour or so here and there whilst I nip out.
Just looking for other people's experiences re when they found it appropriate for newborn and toddler to be with other parent for the day, gradually increasing this to overnights? Feel really torn as to when I will be comfortable with this, and most likely wont be considering it until baby is around 3 months onwards. Dont want to be unreasonable, but on the other hand I don't want to be away from kids at all which isn't realistic long term.

Toddler with start overnights sooner than newborn, but not until at least beginning of new year anyway.

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99bottlesofkombucha · 18/11/2025 22:35

I wouldn’t want to leave a baby under 6 months for overnight. I wouldn’t want to leave a baby till they are over 1 really!!

strongermummy · 18/11/2025 22:38

No overnights until 1yo.

and I wouldn’t consider splitting up toddler and baby either. They should go as a family unit unless one of you is doing something 1:1 with the toddler.
otherwise toddler may perceive they are being pushed out.

IvedoneitagainhaventI · 18/11/2025 23:01

I agree with @strongermummy

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