Advice on how to fall out of love

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I've fallen in love with someone I can't have. It's reciprocated, but both agree it's not going anywhere.

I'm not stupid enough to try to get with them or change this situation.

They had become a friend, a joy in my life. But I've stopped contact now.

How to stop longing for them it's doing my head in.

I guess wait it out
It passes
Like a virus you recover

Two Cures for Love

1. Don’t see him. Don’t phone or write a letter.
2. The easy way: get to know him better.

Wendy Cope

It’s a famous poem by the wonderful Wendy Cope

I adore that poem. Thank you.

I showed his corporate headshot to a brutal friend and she said that he looked like a pound shop hobbit. That sorted me out

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My sympathies OP. Why can’t it go anywhere?

Invent an ick. Think of the thing you liked least about them (you might have to scour your mind) and then make sure you amplify it every time you think of them

OP said that she’s fallen in love with someone she can’t have. I would assume this is because that person is in a relationship. I wouldn’t sympathise, I would gently applaud her and her emotionally intelligent behaviour for being adult enough to realise the pain and harm this could very likely cause.

Why do you have to fall out of love? Can't you just enjoy it as your secret thing?
Or love them from afar?

I'm going to hazard a guess..married.

Make a list of all the things you don’t like about them, physical, habits and otherwise.
No one’s perfect. Dwell on them.

Go out with someone else.