Still not ready to date?

[ThisLittleLightOfMinee]

Why am I not ready yet? Split with Ex 10 years ago, his choice. I haven’t met anyone at all since, nothing, I haven’t joined dating apps and haven’t met anyone irl as I still don’t feel ready to date yet, is something wrong with me? Am I broken? 😕 it’s not because I’m happy alone, I’d love to date and meet someone again, I would love to have a nice kind and loving partner. I genuinely feel like life is better when you have someone to share it when so why am I still not ready? Has anyone experienced this? I follow someone on Instagram and she seems to have such a perfect life, nice kids amazing husband, beautiful home, pregnant with her 3rd child and it all seems so wonderful I can’t help but feel envious so I’m not someone that prefers to be alone but how do I meet someone when I still don’t feel ready? What if I am never ready?

Maybe you just need to give it a whirl - 10 years is a long time.
Go on a few, rip the plaster off, you may enjoy it or decide to leave it a little longer but at least you’ve tried it now.

Is it that you're not ready or that you don't want to engage in OLD and similar types of ways of meeting people?

Tbh I’d probably find online dating easier than meeting anyone irl so it’s not that

Dip your toe into OLD OP. You never know unless you try.

@ThisLittleLightOfMinee do you have kids? If so, would you be ok with them spending 10 years of their life feeling sad about someone? I split up with my partner 8 months ago and I can totally see myself sad for a long time but life is fleeting and I feel I need to put myself out there. You should too. Otherwise you'll wake up older and wishing you hadn't let things pass you by. Its daunting but at least give it a go. Im 100% sure your ex will have.

Sorry I don’t feel sad about him and definitely wouldnt want him back. I have joined OLD I did it with no pic but even then found it so overwhelming got loads of likes and messages even though I didn’t even have a pic, saw married men openly admitting it and a few people I knew irl who were lying about their age, deleted it within 24 hours

Ah sorry, ok so its just a confidence thing then. You sound like you want it but are scared. Loads of people feel that. But its a bit of a leap of faith. And the world won't end if it doesnt work out.

How would you like this to work, OP?

I've been single for 8 years. I have other things going on, a child to raise, a full time job, a mortgage to pay. I don't have the bandwidth for all the demands of a relationship. A man takes up so much time !!

Maybe you are enjoying not being stressed. There is nothing wrong with that. When there is a hole in your life that could be filled by a relationship, I'm sure you'll feel it.

No i definitely dont like being single.

I don’t have friends that go out drinking unfortunately not sure meeting someone on a night out is the best way either from past experiences 🫢