Best Break Up Advice

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Hello and happy Sunday! Im after your best advice to get over a relationship break up. Myself (M30) have recently split up with my long term partner and mother of my children. This ordeal is making me unwell. Can't eat anything, constant worry, the only time I can relax is when im asleep so I find myself sleeping more. The thought of my now ex being with somebody else makes me feel unwell. How do you overcome this feeling? What helps? How did you cope? I am struggling and can not say I have been through this ever before in my life. Thank you

I hope you’re ok!

I found keeping myself busy and finding a new hobby helped. I took up going to the gym and working out a lot, eating healthy and seeing family and friends more… Keeping your mind off of it and into something else should really help, unfortunately you cannot control anything she does, so try not to dwell on the thought of her being with someone else as that won’t help. Focus on the positives of what you can do now, the changes you can make to your life, do the things you always wanted to but stopped because you had a family… Happiness comes most when you’re the happiest version of yourself.

Thank you so much lovely x

Mate. Unfortunately there is no advice and there's only one single thing that will ease the pain.

Time. Time, time, time. Be patient. I absolutely promise you that fist in your stomach pulling at your organs will eventually subside. I promise x

Thank you brother I appreciate it ❤️

Unfortunately there is little you can really do, look after yourself, eat well, sleep well, exercise properly etc time is a great healer.
avoid any unnecessary contact with your ex apart from dealing with your children, and make time for child care

Sister 😉

My Nan used to say “keep your hands busy” basically meaning throw yourself into daily life and routine.

that and time is all there is

Hey, sorry you’re going through a breakup. It really is a big change to your life, so worth giving some time to understand. As others have said, time WILL help, and I’d recommend taking life a day at a time at the moment. It really does begin with you now; it’s a rough time but it is also a time for self improvement, throwing yourself into hobbies and things that can better your life. I am 35 now and my life turned upside down a couple of years back, but I am grateful in many she as the growth to self since has been exponential. Good luck, keep going even if it’s just a ‘plod’ for now. There’s a whole lot of life out there to live.

It sucks, it really does.

Time, doing anything you can to reduce contact/ avoid thinking about them (don't try being 'friends' just be polite enough to deal with arrangments about the kids), distract your mind (not with social media!), set some healthy routines. Go out for a brisk walk in the morning, don't doom scroll, go to the cinema after work if the evening seems endless. It will get better, there will be setbacks but eventually you'll realise you haven't thought about her for a while and your stomach doesn't knot if she does pop into your thoughts.

You need to change your focus and set some goals to keep your mind busy, join a gym and make yourself a better version of you, it’s good for the mind and will also tire you out so you’ll sleep well and you’ll find you do have an appetite , loads of gyms are free to join or low fee this time of year , if it was a woman I’d say go have a glow up and get in yourself in good shape, trust me in a few months you’ll feel great again.

I don't know if this will help you, but when those thoughts crossed my mind after break up I replaced them with thoughts of the reality of him, which was spending most of his time watching facebook reels.

Could you do similar?