Husband leaves cat food in the sink regularly…last Friday morning I ask please can you clean it away. I have asked about 4 x in the last week (and probably about 20x over the last year). Also leaves cupboard doors/drawers open/leaves stuff everywhere. Anyway…ask him to please tidy up cat food gets defensive and argumentative. I don’t respond. He then tries to change the subject…mentioning he got given a present. Says- It’s probably more my thing…felt manipulative. I had to see my mum that afternoon (death in the family) asked him to get home and please make dinner. He agrees and says he’ll be home to make dinner. I arrive home at the same time he does…and end up having to make dinner/tidy up etc (even though this week has been v stressful). I say I thought you said you’d get home in time to make dinner? Deflection/arguing again. I said please try to listen to me…he then deflects…you don’t listen to me…says I like you to text me when you’re half an hour away from home. I thought this was just after a night out and this was early evening…anyway ended up being all about how I should have texted I was on way (I got home at the time I said I would). No taking responsibility or listening. Is so frustrating.
Is this bad? Feels bad but not sure if I’m overreacting.