The only time I hate being single!

[MargotMoon]

No, it’s not Christmas or Valentine’s Day or my birthday.

It’s not when I’m at weddings or parties or on holiday with friends in couples.

The only time I really, truly wish I had a man around is when my house breaks and I don’t know how to fix it. I’m tired of tradesmen fobbing me off or ripping me off. If I wanted to guess what the problem was and not fix it properly I can do that myself for free. Just turn up, don’t be prick and make it stop raining inside my house, please. And I’ll smile and be grateful and pay you a fair price.

When do you hate being single?

There's lots of groups online for socialising. I run some specifically for women but there's plenty for everyone. And there's meet up. Would you try one? Once you make the first step it'll get easier.

@SparklyCardigan sort of agree but I've been like it for years....also having to take a wheeled walker with me is slightly embarrassing

The "handouts" you mention aren't for the adults, they are for the children so they can go to school and grow into healthy adults so they can then then work and contribute to the tax system.
You say you don't receive any of these things, did you not go to school, have school dinners, free health and dental care when you were a child?
The state doesnt pay for other people's children, it pays for YOU (and all children) when you are a child, you are then expected to pay back into the system when you are an adult.

Fortunately people are having children though or there wouldn’t be any nurses, doctors and carers to take care of you when you need it.

It was when I was unwell and had nobody coming home or able to check I needed anything.

What about those people who have duly paid taxes every year all their working lives (decades) and then have their own children but are not eligible for any if those benefits that they’ve paid for all those years. Even if they want to take a few years off to nurture their child they have to dip into hard earned savings or just have to go back after only a year maternity to work their ass off and leave their child just to go on and pay for everybody else to have benefits? Not logical.

I was thinking about this earlier this year when I had a nasty bout of pleurisy.

Then I remembered what a complete tosser XH was any time I was ill. He had no sympathy or empathy.

I am dyspraxic and can’t do even basic diy tasks. I really hate having to pay for it, but then I think how lucky I am at the end of the day, when workman is leaving my house, that it’s all my own quiet space again.

I love being single until I have to do anything car related. For some reason anything relating to a car brings me out in a cold sweat.
Ive put off buying a new one because I can’t face the thought of looking and test driving - I’ll keep my Fiat 500 til it falls apart rather than deal with car salesmen.

Other than that, there’s nothing

There's no reason to compound the crap spouted by this poster by being ageist. That's also obnoxious.

Don't call somebody else pathetic, you know nothing of their circumstances. Just because you feel able to do those things doesn't mean anyone who can't is pathetic. Try being nicer eh?

Indeed. Count your blessings.

I hear you on the trades issue OP!

Please just turn up, don’t be weird, do the job and take my money.

But so many creepy/uncomfortable/ghosting situations. It’s as bad as dating 😩

Do you want to know a secret? Men don't know how to fix it either.

We don't get a manual at age 18 detailing how to do DIY, and it's not something most of us ever get taught.

But we're expected to have this knowledge, so we have a go. In the past year, I've replaced a car battery, replaced a bath, replaced a broken heating element in the oven. I also attempted to replace the motor in the washing machine, but that one was a spectacular failure that required a new washing machine.

I had no clue how to do any of these things, so I googled and youtubed until I thought I knew how to do it. And then I'd fuck it up, so I'd Google and YouTube some more until I fixed it.

You don't need a man to do most of this stuff, you just need a man's completely unjustified confidence that you can figure it out without making it too much worse.

When I'm ill. Just someone to even bring me a glass of water

Don't be embarrassed. Is there a community centre near you?

Same OP anything car or house related.

Oh you're an accountant? I don't do tax returns
Oh you're a personal trainer? I don't need motivating
Oh you're a salesman? If I want it I'll convince myself
Oh you're a chef? I can cook my own shit

If I meet someone new and he's not a builder or a mechanic he can fuck off 😁

Most of your friends husbands wouldn’t know how to fix it either if that’s any help!

That bullying comment has gone now 🙂

Ooh yes this for me too. I had my 4 year old and 1 year old DGDs for the weekend last week, the baby doesn’t sleep well so to be pacing around the bedroom in the dark trying to get her back to sleep on my own was hard, I was very glad when it became light!

When my friends in couples have gathering and don’t consider inviting me because I’m single. Or going on holiday with the kids, two of them and one of me and I wonder if I’m enough or what I’ll do if I need an extra pair of hands, luckily I felt brave enough to just do it anyway.
also, the weight of responsibility on your shoulders alone, can be wearing and heavy after a while.
another person there when you’re grieving or struggling, I have amazing friends but it would be amazing to be someone’s number one, a team mate.
generally I’m happy being single and that’s essentially because I have to make the best of it, I haven’t met anybody who I feel would make my life better x

Whether you want to admit it or not, unless you have been living on a desert island all your life, you have been and are still reliant on other people’s children for your basic needs almost every day. You have managed to earn well but that isn’t enough - you have to denigrate those who have facilitated your lifestyle too. Unbelievable. You may think you are a net contributor but overall in life you are very much a taker! (And no, I dont think being childless is a problem. Being childless and moaning about paying a small cost to enable society to exist is!)

or have an OH who ‘thinks’ he can do DIY - that can be very interesting!

When the car is making a noise or when something goes wrong in the house and I'm unsure if it's something minor that I can fix myself, or whether it's something big. Having someone to talk to about it is literally the ONLY time I miss having a man around. Oh, and if it's absolutely pissing down with rain and I've only just come in from work and my feet hurt and I want a cup of tea - it would be nice if there was someone to say 'I'll take the dog out, darling, you put your feet up.'

But as these are the only things I miss about having a partner, I reckon I'm better off single.

DP does no DIY and is clueless. I missed when single a big bear hug. I had great friends, active social life, quite independent, but can’t hug myself.

For me it’s car stuff. Garages have ripped me off so many times.