Thoughts on this please !

[Sunshineismyhappy]

I went on a date Wednesday…. I thought it went well, lots of laughs ect… obanter going on and so on. And ended with a hug and a small kiss.

he asked me to message him when I got home, he’s been constantly messaging me, but there’s been no mention of a second date yet..

I asked him today , how did you find it ect ? I dont want to just continue to message if we’re not going to see each other again ? His reply was…. “ Yeah, I don’t see why not”

is this a positive outcome or not….. 🤣 just a fob off maybe ? 🤔

I disagree that the reply was crappy. It was flat and not overflowing with enthusiasm but there are a million reasons why that might be. A giant flounce is so OTT at this stage. No need to. Remaining unbothered is the key. Ball back to him, watch and wait.

Maybe you are right. When I dated I expected to be chased and adored but that was a long time ago.

I agree with the general consensus.

It is difficult though @Sunshineismyhappy when you like him, and it was a good first date.

However, the thing I learnt the hard way is: if someone likes you, they make their intentions clear, they won't be nonchalant about arranging a second date.

OLD has given some people huge egos.

I always find someone asking for a second date is a clear sign they are interested.
therefore I tend not to be the one who suggests second dates.
I was in the same situation as you. I asked him after a good first date how his dating was going. He immediately responded that he wasn’t looking and he hoped we could go out again.
i would now wait for him to suggest a date. How long since your first date? If it goes beyond two weeks I would be assuming he’s not interested.

I see the date was Wednesday. Todays Saturday. Give it time!

No!! Why on earth give him the message that ypu are sitting around waiting on him. I would just ignore him, anything else is just wasting your own time.

Sigh. I’m not suggesting she sit literally waiting. Staring at the phone. Furiously knitting whilst manifesting a date number two. Sling the ball back. Get on with life. If he makes an effort fab. Go. Enjoying it. If he doesn’t no biggie, you are already talking to others. It seems a huge over reaction to bin him over one text. Honestly.

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thanks all for you’re reply’s !

I think at this point….. I’m just playing it very cool, he’s putting in the effort with the messages ect…. Im not even going to mention another meet up to be honest until he does. If it goes over another week then I’m done 🤣