Won't allow me near my son

[gratefulmumm]

The situation.. me my partner who I've been with 3 years... I have DS1 with my previous partner and DS2 with my current partner.. recently when I voice something I don't like he said he's going to take my son away...

e.g. morning we are all ill. I didn't like the way he was speaking to my son (DS1) when he said 'stop being rude' so I said 'he's not being rude' and 'time out'. He then said he didn't want me near his son (DS2) and was going to take my son away... because he is 'concerned about my behaviour around him'... he's now told me he wants me to leave and doesn't want me around him or my son..... I don't want to leave my son.. I can't go stay with anyone because I have hand foot and mouth....

he is doing this now whenever I voice something I don't like... not allow me near me son.. I thought it was just a once off but it's now happened twice in three days..

This is abuse. Have there been other signs of abuse before now?

Has he tried to control who you see or what you do? Do you have equal control of your joint money? Does he treat you with respect? Does he support you?

I suspect someone who can be abusive like this is abusive in other ways too.

Do you have anyone IRL you can talk to about this as well as on here?

He is being abusive. When you squash this threat, which you can, by asking him calmly what his plan is for childcare, they’ll be another threat and another. Are you in a position to leave?

This is abuse.

can you contact woman’s aid for advice?

Abuse. Contact women's aid and also make an appointment with your GP to log it. Then get some legal advice so you can leave. I am sorry this is happening.

Thankyou .. it's very up and down - he's the most supportive partner and then it switches... i just don't want this around my children.. at the same time I know leaving means I'll only see DS1 50% of the time and I can't bear the thought...

Ds1 isn't his child, why would you only see him 50%. Is ds1 biological dad around.

How old are the boys? Could he manage child care and work?

Many men say they want 50/50, but can’t actually organise it.

Take his threat of implying you’re not safe round your son extremely seriously and get this logged with your gp and women’s aid. They have specialist solicitors you can use. Do this soon, before he starts telling the gp or social services this narrative because that’s what they do.

All abusive men say they’re having full custody or 50/50. They rarely do.

Do you mean DS2? The child that you have with your partner?
Surely he has absolutely no right to your eldest child?

How can he take DS1 if he isn't his father, your ex is?

She said in the original post that it was her voicing dislike of the way he was speaking to child 1 that led to him threatening to take away child 2.

Thankyou so much for your replies... yes sorry I meant DS2 - DS1 is 7 and DS2 is 1. I'm going to make an appointment with the GP on Monday - only thing is you have to wait a couple of weeks.. I spoke to women's aid and they gave me a list of contacts who I'll get in touch with...