So I was raised in a large family and through sibling rivalry we all ended up pretty much estranged.
My siblings often told me DM was a narcissist and I didn't believe it.
Tripping over myself to visit her and my lovely late df.
I recently had to read my medical records and saw again how she was unsupportive and critical of my parenting skills,refusing to visit much and she once reported me to social services as she felt I needed help as I lost a lot of weight.
Nothing whatsoever happened as the dcs were v well cared for and she apologized for having a mother like that and said it must be difficult.
Yesterday I got a mobile call to collect her pills from the pharmacy.my mobile was in my locker as I was working.
Later I get a landline call where she explained someone else had gone to get them.
I had to repeat I work later as it's too dark to walk the journey at 630 am down a country lane.
Every month she forgets to order pills calls gp then rings pharmacy are they ready almost when they open.
It's so cringe that she gets them jumping through hoops.
I suppose I could organize to call her every month to remind her.It was just the gp before now she calls Boots.
Everyone in my town has to use the pharmacy and I see a lot of elderly collect their own stuff.
The five of us are almost immune to her demands now as there is always something.A relative lives there temporarily and get food, takeaways etc.
I've found it difficult to realise she really thinks the world revolves around her.
Worse still I fell for it for over 50 years.
I just thought she was v strict and critical and never said I love you.
Now I realize she triangulated the family and damage done probably can't be repaired when she does.
Anyone else stuck like this.