Sad about my Sons relationship break down

[Sailor1957]

I’m a 67 year old Grandad - 2 lovely children and 3 wonderful grandsons. My son and his partner — parents of youngest grandson are splitting up and it’s going to be tough for everyone of course. It’s interesting that there are very few “sensible” forums where grandparents like me —- a bit unconventional, still totally active and working and engaged with modern
life and popular culture and enthused and encouraged by younger generations and their ideas and aspirations …. Can share and discuss feelings about such familial things. It sounds dreadful but most men my age, seem to have dinosaur attitudes to most things and are stereotypically, disengaged from intimate conversations with their adult children. I’m not sure why this is is and it seems to be straying off my original point - but in some ways not —
im interested in advice and thoughts on being practical and sensible and supportive of my son and his partner and their son - my grandson who’s 5 at this challenging time . I don’t want to ring up and have meaningless conversations- they all know I support and live them all and always will, whatever their future lives together or apart hold … what other things should I be thinking of. ???

Just check in on him regularly

I think you probably start with a conversation with your son - can you take him for some food or a pint away from the family home? And just outline the fact that you love him and will support him no matter what, and ask what is the best way that you can help them all get through these initial stages. Yours is a lovely post. It is always really sad when things like this happen, but these situations are made infinitely easier when people like you, with your love and care, are there to help support as needed. I hope things work out as straightforwardly as they can.