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I Can't Seem To Move On

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YourUmberScroller · 13/11/2025 21:18

Last year my DH was on a,social media X.
I woke up quite a few times in the night and saw him scrolling then an image of a very attractive fully clothed woman stopped him and he zoomed in to get a better look.I became aware that often when I woke up I'd see him see a image of a women stop ,zoom in .One night when he always thought I was asleep I saw an image of two teenage girls fully clothed but both revealing a boob each. He,stopped ,zoomed in had a two second look at each boob and scrolled on.
One morning I woke up about 7am and saw him zooming in again on a very attractive woman in her 30s .I got the hump and went off to work.I texted him saying if he wants to eye up women don't do it in bed next to your wife who you think is asleep.I said it's really disrespectful to me .I also said wtf where you looking at teenage boobs for ?
He said he doesn't remember that and I said Well I do !
He's a wonderful DH ,we've been together for over thirty years.He came off X as I said it was a cesspit .But ,even all this time later I feel there is something in me that's changed towards him.
I felt very insecure for months and just let down.I said its one thing stopping to look at a woman but to zoom in.
Am I being silly or can anyway else relate ?
It wasn't porn,no evidence of anything like that and I've checked !
But I just feel like how would he have liked it if I was eyeing up men whilst he was asleep.
We love each other have a strong relationship but I just feel 25% doesn't like if anymore after what I saw .

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FruitFlyPie · 14/11/2025 01:29

I don't know OP, I couldn't get worked up over this. Looking at a boob after 30 years? And he's allowed to see a picture of a woman as he scrolls past but not zoom in? I wouldn't care.

If I wanted to eye up men in the sense of a pg-13 topless photo on social media, I would do so and I couldn't imagine my partner would care.

100thbillionthnamechange101 · 14/11/2025 01:49

It's letchy behaviour and I wouldn't like it at all. Really disrespectful to you too

daisychain01 · 14/11/2025 02:07

He's a wonderful DH ,we've been together for over thirty years.

Wonderful.....?

Screwyousimon · 14/11/2025 13:40

Always makes me laugh when women describe their DH as wonderful and then go onto describe how they are anything but. Looking at teenagers tits is not the sign of a wonderful DH op.

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