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I’m tired and want closure

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PreemieBlessing · 12/11/2025 20:39

It’s been over a year since ex asked for a divrce, had countless court battles, £££ spent, I’ve only just settled finances and he is making an issue out of one technicality that has no financial implication on him…just something completely out of my control and might mean remortgage/ sale. This will now drag out things even more because he is unwilling to cooperate… im just so tired and exhausted and want to move on but this idiot keeps chipping away and making life so difficult. How can I mentally disassociated? It’s hard when you have children and have to be cordial at handover times but fighting a massive battle behind the scenes. Worse still- doesn’t provide a penny in child maintenance but has money to keep fighting and sending endless emails via legal teams!

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Joy5 · 12/11/2025 22:49

No advice but wanted to say I feel your pain and how much it takes out of you.

My ex took me to court ten times, with a low salary I had to represent myself each time with him having a legal team. Thought it would never end and all because he had the money to keep filing again and again.

Five years on since the last Hearing and I’m finally starting to believe it’s actually over.

Somehow the experience gave me confidence, I’d never had any before so I ended up with a promotion at work. Never thought that would happen but in my head it’s my ex’s fault it happened which makes me smile.

That and the knowledge it cost him tens of thousands of pounds to do it. Or that I never let him know how much stress it caused me.

I do hope it stops soon for you. x

UpDownAllAround1 · 13/11/2025 01:00

Just finalise the divorce first and contact CMA/CSA

Gettingbysomehow · 13/11/2025 01:03

What the fuck is wrong with him? He wanted this divorce, you'd think he'd want it over quick.

PreemieBlessing · 13/11/2025 07:06

UpDownAllAround1 · 13/11/2025 01:00

Just finalise the divorce first and contact CMA/CSA

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Thank you- yes divorce final order requested, cms do nothing frankly !

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PreemieBlessing · 13/11/2025 07:07

Gettingbysomehow · 13/11/2025 01:03

What the fuck is wrong with him? He wanted this divorce, you'd think he'd want it over quick.

You’d think that wouldn’t you ! Absolute prick

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PreemieBlessing · 13/11/2025 07:09

Joy5 · 12/11/2025 22:49

No advice but wanted to say I feel your pain and how much it takes out of you.

My ex took me to court ten times, with a low salary I had to represent myself each time with him having a legal team. Thought it would never end and all because he had the money to keep filing again and again.

Five years on since the last Hearing and I’m finally starting to believe it’s actually over.

Somehow the experience gave me confidence, I’d never had any before so I ended up with a promotion at work. Never thought that would happen but in my head it’s my ex’s fault it happened which makes me smile.

That and the knowledge it cost him tens of thousands of pounds to do it. Or that I never let him know how much stress it caused me.

I do hope it stops soon for you. x

I love that for you- congrats int he promotion… silver linings 😀
yes that’s a good point- to not show how much it gets to you … he has been begging for the final order so I’ve done it now, you’d think he’d be happy with that… apparently has a girlfriend so maybe wants to remarry… shame not thought about his kids and not given them anything other than the contact that he has to maintain otherwise he will loose that too!

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