Those of you who do this, do you manage not to check it unless you have to ie when your DC are with him?
My XH is having to find new ways to be abusive (we've been divorced a couple of years and the DC (primary age) live with me and only see him every other weekend) and his current game is to text me about something irrelevant - for example something to do with school such as "does DC1 have her sports kit ready for tomorrow?".
I do 100% of everything, there is no co-parenting, it's simply an excuse to contact me, knowing that I will pick it up thinking it's about the DC, and although I want to ignore it I don't want him saying to the DC that I ignore his messages, or him ignoring mine even more than he does already. If you've not been in an abusive relationship you'll think I'm crazy worrying about this...but I have C-PTSD (diagnosed) so it's hard to not overthink back and forth about what to do...which of course gets him into my head, which is the whole point.
So, I am thinking of getting another phone and only switching on the one that he messages on whilst the DC are with him - do you all manage to do that, or do you find yourself checking it in spite of yourself, "just in case?"
TIA.