How honest are you with DH/P when they have done a crap job but at least they have done most of the work?

[Dragonhart]

DH helps me loads, dont get me wrong, but when he does a job in the house it is never done properly. Only details as the actual job is done but the finishing touches that make it seem done are not iyswim. Mainly talking about housework but also decorating, gardening ect.

Just wondered whether you all tell DH/P (and therefore spend your time nagging) or if you just smile, tell them thanks for doing it and ignore the bits not done happy that the bulk of the job is done.

I tell mine...but I am a nag.

I tend to get critical and therefore actually do most of the diy/decorating myself, but if DH starts it and doesnt finish then I'll either finish it off or I'll call my Dad

I think it depends on what the job is and how you go about telling them.
I have a friend and when her and her ex were still together she always complained that he never did enough around the house but he had spent 5 years being crticised for not doing it right and shooed away so she could do it "properly" right down to tiny little things like what drawer the childrens colouring stuff went in the dresser (she is a bit over the top with these things) so he just gave up doing them then was acused of being lazy.

If it is soemthing trivial that he is doing to do me a favour I might be inclined to just finish it off/do it right. If it was something a bit bigger or was his thing to do regularly I may sugest a "different" (read better) way to do it.

I would hate to be criticised for something every time I didn't do it to his standard and we do all have different standards so I try and just accept that on some thinge we do it differently.

Ineedacleaner- I want to be the sort of woman who just accepts these things, I really do but it is like I cannot stop it coming out of my mouth. Even when I try my hardest.

And it is mostly trivial things.

As with our dc's I pick my battles, I'm very lucky over all and my dp is fab but if he promises to do something and then when he eventually gets round to it and doesn't do it properly or he knows I haven't got time to do it then I'll have a moan. There are certain times of the month I will moan anyway though I always think I'm perfectly reasonable and it's only when I get af a couple of days later I realise I may have been a tiny touch ott.

Well at least it is not just me then, I will just learn to bite my lip most of the time! THanks everyone.

I bite my lip - Its rare he actually does things so I'm not gonna bug him if all i've got to do is a 5min job instead of the 1/2 hr it would have took me.

Although I do tend to find he'll spend double the amount of time it would have taken me and its not as good. lol

i bite my lip as well. dp did the kitchen before and it wasn't quite how I'd do it but as he does the kitchen once in a blue moon I wasn't going to argue.

He gets really arsy if I 'interfere'