Moving out of family home

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I've been thinking about moving out of the family home into an Airbnb, due to relationship breakdown. Wondering if anyone else has done this and what the cons could be. Pros are: it would be fully furnished, no bills to pay and could move in almost immediately.

I dd this during lockdown when my cohabiting separation hit a crisis. It was horrifically expensive but got me out of there when I couldn’t arrange anything else. I then found a more affordable rental. With the cost of living as it is I’m not sure what would have been cheaper but better that I wasn’t effectively camping out. I did eventually claim UC to help with housing costs, which I’m not sure would have been feasible at an air b n b without a formal contract.

Con is it will be expensive long term and not your home

I have found somewhere that only costs a bit more than longer term rentals. I'm thinking of staying there for maybe 3 or 4 months while I get finances sorted out, and look for something more permanent. I dont know if there's a limit to the length of stay in an Airbnb. I seem to be able to book up to 3 months. Not sure if you could make another booking directly after that?

It might be worth approaching the vendor to see if you can arrange a discount for longer term rental and also to see if you can extend going forwards if you need to? My divorce took about 2 years to sort out and it always takes longer than you think it’s going to. Over all I moved 4 times while this went through. It’s very, very stressful. I wouldn’t change what I did but I would look for somewhere more permanent or with scope to become so if you need it to last longer than you currently think you need.

Why are you and not the other person moving out of the family home?

The other person is controlling and short tempered, hence the end of the relationship. I feel it would be better for me to move somewhere new, that he has no claim over.

if married, get divorced and sell the family home and split the money and move on properly

I think it will be very difficult to live together while going through a divorce.

Idk, just wanted to say 3 months passes very quickly so if you go down this route, as soon as you were in you'll need to make serious plans for your next more lasting/secure move as it could quickly become a) very expensive and b) very insecure tenure. totally understand you don't want to live under same roof as controlling person during break up/divorce.

Why don't you look to rent a room instead x

I've got 2 teenagers.

Can’t get over people saying stay put when you are obviously feeling unsafe. Is it worth contacting women’s aid. They may be able to offer advice too.

Did this at the start of this year, actually.

Fortunately it was in an amicable situation and there was no massive rush to move.

AirBnB might be an initial option, I suppose, but I'd be wary of the cost; I'd also be super open about what was happening there - make sure the owner knows that you and the children are moving out of the family home and just looking for a temporary place while you sort yourselves out.

Best case scenario, you get a discount and they want you to stay long term and it all works out. Not massively likely, but you never know.

I think better just to search the local rental market. There'll be furnished places ofc, but its a competitive and expensive market out there, so be aware it'll take time, but will ultimately be worth it.

I'd perhaps just internally dampen expectations of a speedy move out and just calmly start looking...best case scenario is that you see a place in the next 2/3 weeks that you can move into, get the admin sorted (and cash ofc) and you're in within a few weeks.

But that would the minimum time I'd expect.

In my experience, I started looking in August but didn't move in anywhere til late Jan.

Missed out on places due to competition, a little bit of prevarication and hesitancy and generally just adapting to a new and strange situation.

Unfurnished could work too tbh. Mine was largely furnished by a very few things I took, but a lot from charity shops. Stuff I got just to make the place seem like a home are probably permanent fixtures now.

I got lots of plants too.

Don't forget, if you're ordering things, you'll need to get your ducks in a row as there are long lead times for beds/sofas etc.

Could work out well if you order in Jan when the prices are lower.

But it all takes much more time than you might think...but it will come around and you'll be in a refreshingly new place both mentally and physically by next spring - just stick with it, plan and prep.

Speak to a lawyer before you do this, moving out of the family home first can sometimes work against you in divorce/separation proceedings. It's not always wise to be the first to leave a place you own.

Really? I thought generally things were split 50/50. Why would moving out work against me? Someone has to move out as I can't see us living together through a divorce. I think you're right about getting some initial legal advice though, I'll look into it.