my partner of 4 years has always made my life easier and always been selflessly there for me.
Did start rocky in early years as I was recently out of a relationship and he was still not secured on me. He found messages to my ex and I found him talking sexting. This was put behind us a year in and we became more serious together. Living with each other and planning a future.
well not too long ago he had a family trip booked to Scotland Edinburgh.. during the trip he had a big domestic fall out with his family that have always been difficult with him and he ended up spending the last 3 nights alone but still in the city.
i supported him each night and loved him from a distance till he returned.
everything normal for past two months and recently he sent me a std positive and admitted to cheating drunk on one of the nights he was alone.
claiming the stress and alcohol of the situation made him do something so stupid. I blew up in horror of this and my health, I’m planned for children soon and have other medical things ongoing and I just was so so upset my health was at risk like this and I still need to get treatment after 2 months he hasn’t told me I’m guessing till he got his positive results from his symptoms.
so as I say I need to end this as I can’t get past this he is saying I was just as bad in start of relationship and I should give him another chance? I just don’t see this on the same level. He has put his own health mine and the act he has actually gone and slept with another human. I have never touched a man while I have been with him.
I am stuck because I feel this man was such a special person in my life but I just can’t trust after this. And the health scare I have waiting to be tested I don’t feel safe with this person what can or should I do ?
I feel his reaction to instantly defend what he did by bringing up old past is unjustified and can’t compare to this health scare betrayal.