Am I the ass hole

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Hi married 19yrs 3 kids. Got away for a night with friends. Very rare.as we dont get out much , we probably got a bit drunk. Some how lost my dh on way back to the hotel. I got back on my own, I couldn't remember hotel room no. I rang him for up to an hour before getting security to let me in, also had no key. Husband out cold. Didn't give a shit, I could of been dead. Am I wrong to be annoyed. He doesn't see why I am upset

Well there's a good bit missing from your night if you 'lost' him on the night out. Presumably he was a similar state and out for the count?

It's a pretty heavy night drinking you've described so it doesn't make sense to hold either of you to sober standards.

It’s not ideal, but clearly you were both hammered. I always get two keys for a hotel, not anticipating this, but because we may well want to do different things at some point.

You sound as bad as each other. How come you didn’t call reception straight away?

You were both wasted. Maybe keep a bit more of control of yourself next time if you can’t manage to get yourself back to your room. I fail to see how any of this is your husband’s fault.

You were both drunken idiots who lost each other, so I’d say if there’s an arsehole here it’s you for making a big deal of it days later. Let it go

Drink less next time. Anything could have happened to either of you when you were that inebriated. I learned my limits years ago.

I think it’s understandable he’d go to sleep and expect you to find your way, no? If he’s sleeping it’s fair that he wouldn’t hear you ringing.

This. Both as bad as each other

How did you lose each other? Why did you wait an hour before getting help? Did he drink as much as you?

I do get you a bit - he knew he'd lost you, he got back and you weren't there. Instead of waiting up or calling you he went to bed. But I think the context of the above and how drunk you both were makes a difference. I'd also let it go now.