What is your red line???

[DollyPinkDaydream]

In a long term relationship with children (teenagers) involved what would make you rethink?, text messaging another woman, kissing, more?

If it's supposed to be a monogamous relationship then definitely kissing another woman has crossed the line.

Text messaging would depend: if it was frequent messaging or messaging that showed a close relationship, or that were flirty or sexual in nature then yes definitely it would be crossing a line.

Are you referring to what is happening in your relationship OP?

Depends on the messages - are they flirting/secretive? Arranging to meet? Kissing is definitely cheating and I'd probably end the relationship.

Kissing is cheating. But then I also class flirty texts as infidelity. It’s a breach of trust.

Text messaging - if it was kept secret, if he didn’t have a legitimate reason to start messaging her in the first place, it had been going on regularly for a while, and/or if he was nurturing an emotional connection with her. How I reacted would depend on the details, but this kind of behaviour would make me seriously reconsider the relationship.

Anything beyond that (flirting over messages, discussing our relationship, secretly arranging to meet, physical intimacy of any description) definitely crosses the line for me and I would end the relationship.

What’s happened OP?

Anything intimate with another woman crosses the line in a monogamous relationship. That’s what monogamy is! Lines vary but anytime someone is doing something they are intentionally hiding or they KNOW would make you uncomfortable is unacceptable. Try to remember all affairs start with a hello so don’t excuse behaviour that’s disrespectful.