Ideas for setting up two friends

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My BFF has been single since her divorce 6/7 years ago. She has not even dated although she says she would like to. I think she is scared of the apps but not meeting anyone IRL.

I have gotten to know a man who is a friend of a friend and inexplicably single - he seems kind, funny, good looking. I can see him and my BFF having a lot in common so I would like to introduce them. Any thoughts on how to arrange this is in a casual and above all non-awkward way? I have never played match-maker before. They are both up for meeting. BFF lives in a different city but will be in town in a couple of weeks for the weekend.

Also wondering if it is best that they exchange a few messages before meeting in person.

We are all in our late 50s if that matters. Thanks for any advice!

Pub quiz? Have a party at your house. Do something in a group so it doesn’t feel like a date.

If they are already interested then all you do is give them each other’s phone numbers and let these grown adults sort themselves out.
Also wondering if it is best that they exchange a few messages before meeting in person. This is absolutely not a situation where you should be micromanaging their contact plans! Just give them the contact details then take a massive step back and wait to hear what BFF’s verdict is later down the line.

Completely agree!
Either arrange a time and place where they can casually meet in a group setting, or hand over the contact info and let them take it from there.
They are capable adults and perfectly equipped te setting up a date if they choose to.

Thanks for the replies - clearly I have been overthinking this one!

Definitely overthinking it. My Mum met my StepDad because her best friend and husband set them up. They just arranged to be in the pub at the same time and then introduced them to each other. Gave it half an hour to make sure they got on, then made themselves scarce and left them to it.

I second the poster up there who suggested a pub quiz though. No better way to work out whether someones a knobhead than to do a pub quiz with them

I introduced two of my friends, who then got together and are married now. I wasn’t exactly match making in that chemistry is hard to predict, but I thought they would get on and might like each other. I actually can’t remember how I introduced them, it was something low key though. They hit it off and exchanged numbers. So I suggest a group type thing .
Don’t do what the above friend did to me, which was to arrange a trio trip to the cinema and then not turn up !

Can you just not have a meal out or a pub/bowling/quiz night as a group and just include them both? Gives them a chance to meet without the pressure of a date!