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I don’t have a good feeling, what do you think?

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Rodmano · 06/11/2025 23:13

I will try to give as many details as I can, i have just seen this, I cannot sleep and tomorrow I have such a long day at work.
My husband works for a company in a management role and he has a new manager (she). He told me how stressed he is because he heard she is very strict etc. i told him to do his job, be professional as you always were and you will not have any issues.
At this time they have temporary jobs because of the nature of the business and he encouraged me to apply ( i already have a part time job but we just need more money around xmax).
I have tried, applied and got the job. This is in the same location where my husband works. I started, all good and one day i saw them together, chatting.

She is a nice lady, quite flashy but I guess attractive for many men.
I just had a very bad idea and looked on his IG profile to see if he is following her. He does, he liked every single picture of her. Her profile is public and she has only pictures with her outfits etc. In one of them she is wearing jeans and strapless, cropped top and he posted a red heart. This is all public.
i am speechless, i am thinking to quit the job and tell him I just don’t feel i can manage 2 jobs etc . I don’t feel like confronting him.
he is just next to me sleeping while i write all of this.
and I forgot, he told me yesterday that she will sign his promotion.
What do you think?
i am sorry if i made mistakes, English it is not my first language.

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JudgeBread · 06/11/2025 23:16

I think if he was having an affair with this woman telling you to get a job at the same workplace as she and he would be exceptionally thick of him.

Talk to your husband, tell him he's overdoing it liking all her SM posts and coming across as a brown noser. See how he reacts. It genuinely could just be that he's sucking up to her to gain approval. Either way nothing will be resolved if you don't open a conversation about it.

Kindnesscostsnothingtryit · 06/11/2025 23:21

JudgeBread · 06/11/2025 23:16

I think if he was having an affair with this woman telling you to get a job at the same workplace as she and he would be exceptionally thick of him.

Talk to your husband, tell him he's overdoing it liking all her SM posts and coming across as a brown noser. See how he reacts. It genuinely could just be that he's sucking up to her to gain approval. Either way nothing will be resolved if you don't open a conversation about it.

I agree! I dont think its anything to worry about but would just say you looked her up and notice he likes a lot of her posts etc which you think.is a bit odd.

Gottocopebymyself · 06/11/2025 23:22

I certainly don't think you should give your job up OP.

I do think you should talk to him about how inappropriate his liking and putting hearts on her photos on social media is.
Inappropriate in a professional way and inappropriate because he is a married man and it's disrespectful to you. Talk to him about boundaries.

Rodmano · 06/11/2025 23:46

Gottocopebymyself · 06/11/2025 23:22

I certainly don't think you should give your job up OP.

I do think you should talk to him about how inappropriate his liking and putting hearts on her photos on social media is.
Inappropriate in a professional way and inappropriate because he is a married man and it's disrespectful to you. Talk to him about boundaries.

Yes, I find it very unprofessional. If the photos would be nature, animals, what ever, would be a different story.
Because it is all public, i guess all his colleagues saw the hearts etc and there might be rumours circulating. Would be cruel, crazy and stupid to have an affair with her but I think they all know ( including her) he likes her?!?
I will feel uncomfortable to be there.
i am very professional and strict. I told him from beginning that if I will get the job I don’t want to tell everyone about me and to not interfere in any way. I took the job through a third party so he has nothing to do.

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