Confused and need advice

[Holidaybreakup]

Really need advice on my relationship. Been together over a year but don't live together. We get along great most of the time BUT every time we go away we end up arguing. Not just small arguments either. Twice this year we've had huge arguments while abroad & nearly ended up coming home early or not together. I don't know what to make of this as at home we literally never argue. I'm close to calling it a day but I just need to understand what's going on. Has anyone else experienced this?

What did you argue about?

what does he say about this? Is it him stirring it up?

What did you argue about and who instigated it?

You don’t live together so times are probably limited and precious and ultimately afterward, you both get space.

When you go on holiday, you’re in one another’s pockets I assume, and you get wound up being so close 24/7.

Honestly? I’d drop this relationship. It’ll only end in tears. .

Well, on holiday you're together 24/7 which is not the case at home. Does being together throw up incompatabilities that are less apparent at home? What are the arguments about? Is alcohol involved?

We don't sleep well together as I snore. When we're away this creates tension as we're both overtired. I've tried every remedy & nothing works. The arguments were about small insignificant things but escalated. I don't recognise the person he is when he behaves like this. He did apologise after but holiday was ruined by that point.

Sounds like you need separate rooms when away. Maybe get an Airbnb with more than one bedroom. Sounds like he is tired as not sleeping and leads to arguments over silly things.

Definitely separate rooms on holiday. You can still spend time in bed together whenever you want but if he's sleep deprived due to your snoring then it sounds like tiredness is making him short tempered.

Hmmm separate rooms on holiday is not always doable. We're going to a Lodge next with family & there's not enough room for me to have my own room. Im dreading it. We have talked about ot & agreed lack of rest is the main problem. I've tried everything to address my snoring which I know is the issue here but nothing works. Im at my wits end as don't want to give up an otherwise great relationship after years on my own

There is no such thing as an otherwise great relationship.
A relationship is either great in its totality, or it's not.
You can't pick and choose which parts you like about your partner and relationship and which parts you toss.

People get stuck in miserable situations for years because they are unable to see the difference between who someone is, and what their potential could be.
Your partner has the potential to be a great partner... But in reality the slightest disturbance in his sleep shows him to be a shit partner. This is it. This is who he is. This is part of the whole, and you need to ask yourself whether you can live with that.

Ok, thanks for that. I think we all have to compromise in relationships. Everything can't be all great all of the time but I appreciate your insight.