Still sharing the house - how to cope?!

[Betty1305]

Me and STBXH have just put our house on the market and, as neither of us can afford to move out before selling, we are both still living together. Joy!

I am still feeling upset and angry as I feel he just gave up on us and his behaviour towards me was very uncaring.
I know the split is for the best and I am, in some ways, looking forward to living alone and having my life back.

But, how do I navigate this period. He is being all nice, like he’s trying to be my friend, when the last time we spoke it was awful. I know he probably wants to look like he’s being a good bloke (when he’s really not but always appears to be) but it’s very unsettling and confusing.
Should I try to get on with him?
Any advice?

Stay away from him as much as possible. Designate a room each (if you don't have a spare) and stay in it as much as possible. Don't do any services for him - laundry, cooking, grocery shopping etc. Grey rock and don't engage, He is no longer your friend.

If you don’t have kids it should be easy to avoid him You can be civil without being too friendly just to make this period more bearable. Go out when you can get f he’s home to avoid shared areas.it might be a good time to take up a new hobby and spend less time at home. Also have a meeting seeing as house is on market re making sure it’s clean and tidy ect as this may be a future source of conflict. Good luck and I hope you are ok x

Avoid him when you are at home as much as possible. You have made your decision so no need to spend time together, just treat him as a lodger. Assuming you have no children don't do any coupley things together and keep conversations brief and civil. Have a strict rota for kitchen, bathroom and housework and don't clear up after him or cook for him.

My exH and I are still living together - 2 yrs 10 months down the line 😆 We've been officially divorced for 9 months!
We have separate rooms - he has a sofa in his. Generally he seems to stay out as much as he can (we both work full time anyway) Occasionally we eat a Sunday dinner together, but that’s it.