Violence/abuse

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Me and husband (ex) had been getting on great. In the past he’s been verbally abusive but not for a long time. We went out for out 8th wedding anniversary, nice meal, few drinks and he suddenly turned. Started to verbally abuse me so I walked away, he followed. Punched me in the side of my head, causing a black eye. I got away again and he followed me again, pushed me from behind onto the concrete and proceeded to beat me in a public place with people around. I’ve lost 4 teeth and have extensive bruising. He was arrested, I was hospitalised. He’s claiming he’s sorry and doesn’t remember! How can someone not remember?

He's lying. I'm sorry this happened to you. Please never be alone with him again.

Of course he remembers. He's probably hoping you'll forgive him or think he can use that as an excuse in court. I hope you have some family or friends who can support you.

He's lying, but the witnesses will remember and hopefully there was CCTV in the area which will provide the truth.

I’m so sorry that this has happened to you. It does not matter what he says/thinks. Someone that loved you could never hurt you like that - please leave him. He may be scarred from a difficult life - that does not make it ok and you can never show him how to love the right way - that would take years of therapy and even then might not be successful. Take care and recover both emotionally and physically- I am so sorry you have suffered like this xx

Abusers always "forget" when they've abused someone. Guarantee if you'd smacked him back he'd have remembered the whole event play-by-play though.

Sorry he did that to you 💐

Thank you, I have left him. I’m in shock, I knew he had a bit of a bad temper sometimes but this is on another level and I can’t seem to get my head round why he would do this to me. He’s saying he was too drunk and doesn’t remember a thing but we hadn’t drank that much and I remember everything.

I’m sorry this happened to you, you must feel very traumatised by the whole event.

Ignore him. He assaulted you very badly and he could have killed you.

Protect yourself and give yourself some space, ask for a non molestation order and block his number to give yourself some head space.

The most important thing is you have left him.

I'm so sorry this happened to you. Can I suggest you contact your nearest Women's Aid for both emotional and practical support.

Wishing you well.

Drugs or drinking more than you know and an abuser. Who knows. Well rid

Alcohol is no excuse for what he did. Most men get very drunk on occasion and don't beat their wives. I hope he's prosecuted and locked up for what he did to you.

Please don't have any more contact with him. He will lie, emotionally blackmail and try to minimise what he's done. You don't need to listen to it.

I'm so sorry that he did this to you and hope you have support from family and friends. You can also contact domestic violence charities for support. Look after yourself lovely 💐

Leave and never give another chance. That's it. Finito. (and use a safe house if you are afraid)

I am so sorry you have suffered this way.

I hope now you’ve left him you can create a life for yourself that is much happier.

Who cares if he doesn’t remember? He’s a violent abusive thug. I hope he gets convicted of his horrible assault of you.

Please please never give him another chance. Don't try and reason why he did this to you. He did it because he's a pathetic coward. Its not your fault that his violence escalated. It always does after a while. The more you let them get away with, the worse they get. You're in serious danger if you even consider reconciling with a "man" (not a man) like this. He could eventually kill you, you're worth more than this. You don't say if you have children but I really hope you can stay safe. Contact Women's Aid if you need help.

Well sometimes people do drink so much they genuinely don’t remember. I’ve definitely done that in the past. However that’s irrelevant really, and it’s an easy excuse isn’t it - I don’t remember sorry. Hope he gets a prison sentence. Don’t fall for any apologies etc, please stay away from this violent bully.

So sorry OP - what a horrendous experience for you and so unfair that this happens to so many women. These bigger bullies who actually think they can get away with it. Well he found out by being arrested that maybe it won’t be so easy. Break off contact now, no matter he says. He was verbally abusive in the past, so this was always potentially hiding under the surface, waiting to erupt. Especially if he hadn’t received therapy for his verbal abuse of you, which I assume he hadn’t. It may be that over the years you became more compliant to avoid his verbal abuse which is why it hadn’t escalated until recently. Alcohol often emboldens behavior that the perpetrator actually thinks is right to do. He’ll have some really warped beliefs to act this way. Do not accept excuses. It doesn’t matter if he remembers it or not.