He said he wouldn’t mind if I got back with my ex..

[TheHappyMaker]

the guy i’m seeing was with his ex for 13 years and they have a kid together, I also have kid with ex of 5 years. We were chilling out at weekend and he said

“If your ex wanted to get back with you for the sake of you being a family again, I’d sacrifice my own happiness for you and (then mentioned my daughters name) I’d understand.

I’m autistic and kind of felt odd comment to make randomly, he’s told me recently I’m his soul mate” I’m trying to make sense why would he say that comment above as not like he was trying to end things? There was a part that thought oh thats quite sweet but at same time… so I just said the same back to him about his ex and he went “no as that the person he knew is gone and wouldn’t be the same, shes dead the old her..

(they didn’t end badly like cheating just she left him due to bickering regularly)

It’s a fear of his, this is why he mentioned it, also a way of asking how you still feel about your ex, in a strange way.
This is a new relationship, I wouldn’t read too deeply about everything, that also goes for soul mate chat, to you he’s the guy you’re seeing. I’d watch out if this becomes an extreme thinking pattern of his, last thing you want is confusion. Heavy words and little commitment.

He was testing you. He said that to see how you would react. If you said "aww thank you" he'd be annoyed because you were basically saying you might take your ex back. If you said "omg no i don't want my ex i love you" he'd be happy. I think you saying you'd do the same would make him think you're not that committed. It sounds like he's insecure and using this approach to manipulate you rather than just sharing his insecurities.

His comment about his ex was him trying to squeeze a similar comment out of you. Insecure men love to say things to spark a reaction. If you'd said "same, my ex means nothing to me"= he's safe. If you said "my and my ex are just friends"= he's less safe.

I don't think it was a test at all.

For me, it doesn't bode, well when a boyfriend says to me, they d understand if I wanted to go and be with another man. To me, that isn't a test to me that says they're genuinely, not bothered or that into me.

My ex said to me the same and he was cheating me with his ex. He's projecting

Could be a test to see what you say with a sinister motive, or it could just as well be the fact that he’s catching feelings and somewhere inside of him he’s scared to be vulnerable and of not being enough for you, so he’s giving you an ‘out’ before things get too serious to limit the chances of him being further hurt later down the line. Self protection. ‘If you’re going to leave, rip the plaster off, do it now’ sort of thing.