New relationships after divorce, and kids

[FallenFigs]

Can someone point me in the direction of some sensible advice about new relationships and how to handle it, with kids of different ages?

Good phrases to use, what to avoid, timing etc.

Have been discussing this a little with a new partner. We are not rushing anything but starting to think about approaches with kids (and an amicable ex partner). Ages are 8, 14 and 16. The 16 year old is pretty much informed already (within reason obvs) but the other two need careful, patient handling. Would love to find a good resource to have to hand as we discuss this and begin to navigate it.

thank you.

I need this as well. Been seeing him now for 9 months and wondering how to proceed. Feels like I'm living 2 completely separate lives atm.

How long have you been seeing him?

About 3 months, but we knew one another already.

Not planning on doing this soon, or rushing, but definitely want to start reading up on the best way, and then to start thinking about the groundwork.

Honestly, this depends on you both and the kids.

Much against the belief of many on here, we met each others kids within a few weeks. Partly accidental, partly it didnt feel like the wrong thing to do.

We didnt know each other but had a lot of friends in common (she actually knew ex-wife family) so not total strangers in that sense. All kids were very much matter of fact and in a nice way, not bothered at all. Non event really.

I was always open with mine (at the time 15/13) about me going out on a date, how it was going, that the date last night wont be going further etc. Within 9 months of meeting we all went on a 2 week holiday.

Like I said, it depends on the child. The 8yo may be more unsettled but I think a lot of it's down to us parents. If we make it into a big thing, maybe they do too.

The 8 and 14 year olds can handle a new family dynamic, as long as both the parents are involved i suppose.