Being disgusting, am I over-reacting

[MrsTribiani]

Changed my name.

I have always had a problem with "people germs", I'm not a fussy person or OTT with housework etc, I just can't stand people being personally disgusting.

Anyway I have been with partner for around 6 months and we have had a huge row and he says I am so precious and he's sick of it.

This is all because I asked him not to fart, belch, or sneeze near me.

He's overweight and eats crap so is constantly farting and when he does it in my bed it freaks me out I have to go and get a shower and tip him out so I can change the sheets. I make him have his own pillow case because he always has loads of sleep in his eyes and it might go on my pillows.

When he belches near me I have to get up and move away, he does it often because again he eats too much. Yesterday (the one that caused the argument) he went to kiss me and as I leant forward he belched right in my face. He apologised and said it was an accident but I blew up over it and it made me feel ill for the rest of the day. I just don't see the need for it. It irritates me so much.

Am I too precious or would this kind of thing get to you too? I was the same with my ex but for some reason I never thought of him as being so disgusting, maybe because he wasn't overweight and didn't eat as much?

not sure why the name change tho

or indeed why ask

obviously changing sheets is ott

The neezing wouldn't bother me so long as he was polite, convered his mouth and nose and truned away.
The farting and belching is a deal breaker though, it makes me want to throw up. I accept it happens but it does not need to happen in front of me.
I'm right with you on this one

And I believe neezing is similar to sneezing

If I changed the sheets/had a shower every time dh farted I'd never get a wink of sleep!
Is this for real?

Has he got a small knob, too?

so whether or not this is a wind-up, some or view don't allow your partner to fart or bump in front of you?

Assuming this isn't a joke...it does sound like your reaction is a bit OTT - do you have issues with other "dirty" things or is it just people germs? How do you feel about changing nappies for example?

That aside, it does sound like your partner shows a lack of respect for you. Sneezing I can excuse as it's involuntary, but he could put his hand over his face first. Burping in your face is inexcusable - DH has done similar in the past though and was mortified. DH also does some wicked smelling farts, so has been trained to get out of bed and leave the room before unleashing one!

As others said, it doesn't sound as though you really like him, so maybe it's not meant to be?

That's such a turn-off. Does he pick his nose too? He might as well, to complete the picture!
I wouldn't tip him out of the bed, but I would fall out of love so I would be mentally tipping him out of my life anyway ...

Relieved that fillybuster's lighter is for the joss sticks and not the farts

Avoiding getting his sleep on your pillow . Think worrying about this and his sneezing is a bit OTT together with changing sheets evey time he farts.

Can understand why some people get bothered by the farting and belching and to be honest if dh belched in my face I would be a bit peed off.

Pretty much put up with the farting though. 2 months into relationship dh pulled the ''pull my finger gag" on me and I laughed having completely fallen for it! Think that was him taking it as the green light to continue. Apparently I fart like a trooper when I'm asleep aswell but my excuse is that I'm not aware of it so that can't count!

its not what he does it is clear from the op she doesnt like him

thats why i say dump him

And you don't burp or fart and when you do they smaell of orange blossom & cherry pie?

Understand you have "issues" with it, but it honestly sounds like you're making a big deal of it so you can disctance yourself from him and make breaking up easier - or force him into dumping you because he's getting fed up with it

I can also see a pattern with you saying you were the same with your ex

I agree with the others,you obviously don't like him enough to "put up" with his habits.IMO if he's a new DP of 6 mths,he should still be trying to be "attractive " to you and not do this.Obviously he can't "help" farting etc.but it is possible to be"discreet" and polite.I'm sure all of us are capable of holding in Belches etc. when we are in certain company.Not saying when you are at home you'd want to be "on your best behaviour" etc. but by the time you are relaxed enough to Fart etc. in front of a new partner,I would think you would care enough about them not to care so much about their annoying habits.To see all his "faults" all the time and not all the reasons you are with him spells trouble,especially this early on in a relationship IME.

Do you fancy him?

What about the other things that come out of his body, such as saliva and spunk?

How do you feel about those?

Yes your being precious. I can understand you being upset because he burped in your face, that is disrespectful, but changing your sheets and showering because he farts IMO that is not normal behaviour. Do you think you could have a bit of OCD going there? What if your DC farted in your bed? would you have the same reaction? I agree with others saying that it would appear you really dont like him.

lol this is just the thread i have needed all day lol

havent laughed so hard better than crying

he he chucking out of bed having shower changing sheets coz of a fart lol

i dont know whether this is a wind up but made my day

my dp farts countless times a night might even be inclined to let one out myself lol

but my god i would have never ending washing and nervous break down through lack of sleep

good to imagine dp farting me gagging tipping him from the bed in a hurry to change my guff infested sheets

there really are some one off people

if you dont like it i think you will be alone for along time as as far as i remember most men fart several times in the night even we do

thank you for making me smile even if to you this is real and not funny how do you function in a day not bodily functions but through tiredness and dry skin from too many showers

but do you not fart burp or burp he he do you disgust yourself

oh and if this is serious then you shouldnt keep letting him into your bed if you dont like it and i think he sounds like he isnt your prince charming so maybe you should cut your losses withn this one and sleep soundly at night

Didn't we have a similar troll post about this last year? Anyway, just about everyone farts, but what are your partner's good qualities? If you can't think of more than three, dump him, you'll be much happier.

Is this really trollish?
I think I might have OCD too then!
Seriously, farting and burping does not need to be shared AFAIC. No, I wouldn't get up and wash the sheets but the first time I'd not be happy and I'd say so, if it happenned after that I'd sleep elsewhere and would quite likely end the relationship unless a genuine couldn't help it type moment.
Any guy I've ever been with has known how I feel and been fine with it.
I could never be in a relationship where farts and burps were shared and funny

I bet it is a troll now and I end up being the weirdo!

Bubblagirl, LOL at "guff infested sheets"

yes BS however don't think OP finds it a 'guff'awing matter!

Farting, sneezing et al are normally body functions no?

Hands up anyone who doesn't do them.

If OP is for real it sounds like she has some issues worth discussing with G.P. Nothing wrong with not liking farting/belching but changing sheets and "feeling ill for rest of the day" not in proportion. Unless he's "following through"?

Troll, perhaps? If not OP please get help to lead a more relaxed life with or without DP.

You're not being too precious.

You are COMPLETELY incompatible with this person and why on Earth are you with him?

You make him have his own pillowcase.. you shower when he farts.

My god, and you let him shag you?

What about post-coital... do you disinfect yourself?