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7 month on from heartbreak is it normal feelings?

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YouCanYouWill · 02/11/2025 12:13

just wondering if it still normal to still miss ex like the laughs we had etc. I really want to be over him as I know my life is much better but can’t help but still miss him I probably would’ve stayed miserable to keep my family together.

he left 7 months ago after 14 years said he wasn’t happy reasons were because we bickered over not seeing each other or spending time as a family because I worked 9-5 and he worked 7-1am self employed driver and extra on weekend he done school pick ups and odd school morning drop offs and I done every evening and weekend. I was lonely but he said it was his job and busy times. I would wake him up after having 7 hours sleep on a Saturday morning to go out as a family as DC only seen him 1 hour a day after school and since he left he’s told me I have told him for past 2 years of starting this job when to work and wake him up early on a weekend after having a few hours sleep which is not the case he just worked when he wanted anyways I only asked him to get DC from school until I finished work. He went on a few dates and 6 weeks after leaving me moved in with someone as couldn’t afford a flat who fits his lifestyle as she doesn’t work or have her children so he is able to have that life style of no responsibility and working and sleeping when he wants. I can’t believe how selfish he has become only good thing is he actually spends time with DC now and goes away for nights with her but it was everything I asked him to do. I know he has more time now as doesn’t do school runs and they sleep twice a week so but still can’t help but feeling hurt and miss him. He always asking to drop them off earlier as says he is self employed and needs to work and I still get paid if I take time off but I say not my problem. I can say I am a lot better than I was don’t cry as much go out with friends lost 3 stone 2 holidays on my own with DC and he repeatedly tells me how he has to work when he doesn’t have children and I have that time to myself. Just feeling a bit meh like getting over the real heart break but still something I haven’t got over.

OP posts:
Diarygirlqueen · 02/11/2025 13:42

I know you've wrote about this before, it will just take time.
Keep busy and focus on yourself. All the best OP xxx

YouCanYouWill · 02/11/2025 14:16

@Diarygirlqueen yeah I have thanks and yes I am hoping time is only thing I’ve done the therapy and distraction thanks xxx

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Babygirlmamahere · 02/11/2025 15:37

When my ex left me it was such a shock. He moved out while I was at work and hasn't spoken to me since. Looking back the signs were there that it was all wrong but I loved him very much. For a full year I felt like my heart would be broken forever and I just felt so hurt. Its now many years on and I am so so pleased he left. I have a great life now and a brilliant partner. You will look back on this in a few years and feel the same, im sure.

YouCanYouWill · 02/11/2025 15:43

@Babygirlmamahere thank you I feel the same loved him very much even though I was probably not happy myself but probs hung on to the illusion of what we could be and he clearly was selfish. Hopefully I will be the same as already have a better life t stupid me would still take going back to being miserable to keep my family together although I wouldn’t want him back now the damage is done x

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UpDownAllAround1 · 02/11/2025 15:44

Yes

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