Me and my ex split a couple of months ago. We’re coparenting in the same house while we sort out finances etc
whenever we have a discussion they say what they want and then when I try to respond they cut me off or change the subject and I never get to say what I need to say. Tonight we were having a discussion and it was going the same way except this time they started shouting over and over at me to shut up and stop talking when I tried to reply. I didn’t because I felt like I deserved to be heard too and my voice was probably raised slightly, not shouting but slightly louder than usual from trying to be heard over their talking over me if that makes sense.
they screamed shut up at me banged the worktop a few times and then went to pick up a plate in front of them to throw it. They didn’t throw it, they didn’t even touch it in the end but they went to and it scared me. I asked why they were going to throw the plate at me and they said they weren’t going to and it’s sad that I think they would ever do such a thing. But I’m not sure what else I was supposed to think when we were in a tiny kitchen and they went to grab it, two hands, one either side while shouting and being angry. Apparently they were just going to throw it down by their feet which I find hard to believe and I drove them to it by not stopping when they told me to. Said it was a meltdown and not their fault (diagnosed autistic)
there’s never been violence in our relationship. Control issues but never physical violence.