I have been in a bad relationship for way too long. Sorry a bit long but I want to paint the picture. I can not even call it a relationship. There is an age gap and a lot of incompatibility including intelectual. Let's not go into detail why I am in it as that is not the topic of this thread. When we met years ago DP was trying to impress me and I genuinely felt we connected but only later when I was way too deep involved (and unable to easily extract myself) I realised it was all a bit false. I am an avid reader and have a lot of books. I would go to bookstores and spend hours there (he would deliberately wait outside), I would be intrested in authors evenings etc. I do like talking about certain topics etc. I have two university degrees and a third one which i did not complete. When we met and he invited me to this place first time, the irck was massive TV but no books. My DP has not read one book in the years we have been together. When we started living together and I asked him if I can put my books on his empty bookcase, he was ok about it until one time he told me that my books bend his bookcase. They did not, as it was a strurdy piece of furniture and purpose build bookcase. When we moved again I did not put the books back on that bookshelf. It is empty. When he talks about me, he likes dropping into the conversation my education as if by association it elevates him. I never talk about my education, I feel it is unnecessary. Unless of course someone asks. Few times DP mentioned that his DS is very skilled in psychology and studied psychology; I was very puzzled knowing from DP that the DS had problems at school and never went to university. DP clarified that DS studied psychology at school and I was even more perplexed as how much of a skill could he have learned and developed at the age of 16. I was told he is very talented in the topic and did study at 16. When I met the DS nothing matched and I shall leave it at this. I, however studied Psychotherapy and Councelling and the other day I actually showed DP my university photo ID pass. He completely dissmissed it. We often talk a lot about DP parents situation with dementia and I offer support and empathy which is always met with brisk and cold dismissal. He has mentioned yet again how his DS studied psychology at school and is very well skilled to offer support. For clarity the DS was always in need for support himself, had serious depression and other psychosomatic problems. I can not imagine what the psychology lessons could be at school age 16. Perhaps a bit of theory and history but certainly nothing that would qualify under UKCP. My point here is that I feel he holds contempt towards me. He dismisses anything that is of any intelctual value that is initiated by me. Whether it is a comment, recommendation, opinion, suggestion, or simply sharing a thought. Anything. He actually told me he is not intrested in my opinion. He finds it uncomfortable if I am in a middle of a conversation and he has nothing to say. If I ask him anything his answer always is "I dont know". My point is - due to my studies - there are many books on psychology, theory, clinical etc that i own, there is my ID and notebooks and of course my knowledge yet he ignores all that and gloates over the DS few lessons. His friend once told me (which I was very surprised) that he finds it odd us together as what do we talk about? The truth is we do not talk about anything other than news, weather, and just passing comments. There is nothing vibrant and stimulating. Would you take this behaviour around DS and my studies as contempt or not?