More interested in having kids than getting married/finding love

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As a man I feel like the reason why im pushing myself to date is just to have kids, I have never really been into the idea of marriage or all that romantic stuff. Romantic relationships come with a lot of emotional maintanence and having to meet a womans emotional needs, I would prefer to just focus on raising kids and I also would prefer the woman im with to focus more on our kids than me. I dont need no love or attention but im happy enough providing for a family and I will give all that loving attention to our children.

The truth is if I didnt want kids then I would have Zero interest in a relationship because I dont see the point in being in a relationship if your not going to have kids.

Im not asexual or anything and im very sexually attracted to women but I feel like I cant love a woman like I can with my own kids, I can be friends with a woman and I have had female friends in the past but I also wouldnt really care if a woman I had kids with just left me because I would just focus on being a father.

I know of men who cry and feel depressed when they break up with thier GF but im not like that

If you don’t feel able to do ‘emotional maintenance’ you can’t be a father. Children require and deserve immense amounts of emotional labour and all the people suggesting ways to acquire a child on here are missing the point. And the point is that you seem to not have a good grasp of human relationships. Why do you want to be a father?

Frankly, it all sounds a bit Elon.

Why take this weirdo seriously?!

My children's wellbeing comes before anything in my life, so I don't think that aspect of what you're saying is unusual. I also think there are other people who feel like you do but don't express it as honestly as you.

My main concern is I don't think you're fully on board with what is required to raise a child. Unlike some posters on here, I don't agree that a romantic relationship is necessary but children have enormous emotional needs that have to be met.

Just dropping in to comment that TWO of my friends got pregnant by accident, no viable interest in a long-term relationship with the boyfriend but they hammered out really good co-parenting agreements with them. They both worked out well: in essence, they're like amicably divorced couples.

Neither has met anyone they want to marry, though they date. If that ever happens for them or their co-parents, it will again be the same as what divorced couples do.

The youngest of the DC is eight now, and it's clearly working well.

I used to know one gay couple and one lesbian couple who had children with friends. The co-parenting was a bit different because there were three parents, and I don't know what they planned to do if the couples split up. The gay men's DD was the most well-adjusted child I have ever met; a real credit to all of her parents!

what happened? Any development?

Sadly women do not want kids without having love in their lives, unless your one of nick cannons partners of course.