Would you tell?!

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I’m married with kids. My husband has somehow befriended someone I used to date when I was a teenager… he doesn’t know. Not a great end but equally so over it and don’t care at all. Absolutely zero feelings and never even think about it! The only reason is because his name keeps bloody coming up! I’m considering telling him because he knows some friends of friends…(some who live in the past) and I’m worried it would get back to him. Equally, I don’t want to stir the pot and think saying ‘oh I used to date so and so’ after being together for 20+ years sounds really childish and pathetic?! Am I just overthinking this and just let it go?! Wwyd?

Tell him. It’d probably be embarrassing and awkward if he heard it from someone else and he might wonder why you didn’t mention it.

I would tell him. If you don’t and he finds out - which he likely will - then he will wonder why you didn’t mention it because it is an obvious thing to mention . Imagine you made a new friend and then after being friends for a while you found out that her and your husband used to date but neither mentioned it ? Wouldn’t you wonder why they hadn’t? Yet , if you met them and then your husband or she said “ oh gosh I used to date him / her , what a small world “ you would likely think nothing of it but surely if they didn’t you would be thinking why didn’t either of them think to tell me that already knew each other and dated ?