Would this put you off?

[cupsandcupsoftea]

I've been on a few dates with a guy. He's very nice and kind unlike my usual type.

The only thing that puts me off is he has never done anything career wise except minimum wage jobs, he's always worked but hasn't seemed to have a career of any sort.

Would this put you off or am I just being shallow?

Depends how judgy I was I suppose

Personally it wouldn't necessarily bother me depending on what the future looks like for him and where you would be within that. I would be looking at if he jumping from one job to another? Or is he consistently working for the same employer for a long enough period of time for it to be more than "just a NMW job" if that makes sense.

For me, it's about equality. I earn less than my partner but we both brought the same attitude to working and value and standards to the table. We also brought a share of income and assets that meant we both felt secure (financially) and although I could not match his income we had an understanding of where both of our working lives were headed.

How old is he?

IME a lotof perfectly good men don't really start their careers until c. 25 or until they start thinking about home and family.

If he's over 30 and you want home and family etc, I don't think you'll fulfil your dreams with him.

I would prefer him than a unkind career driven guy.

There's nothing wrong with a man having a minimum wage job if your hopes and aspirations match. What do you do @cupsandcupsoftea.

It isn't about the money per se but about what you have in common and what you both want in life. If you are profoundly ambitious and want one day to have a big house and quality car and he couldn't be bovvered there will be problems along the way.

How old are you both?

It depends on what he is like generally as a person. I went out with a man for a year who worked in a food factory. It didn’t particularly bother me but he showed no interest in my work at all, not even at a ‘How was your day?’ level whereas I always listened to his work stories.

Not necessarily. In fact not at all. All work is valuable and respectable. Min wage workers work often much harder in relation to their pay than some executives and managers.

As long as they were intelligent. Well read, good taste in music, film, art, interested and inquisitive about life and people etc. Confident, funny, kind and interesting. Those are the things I'd value. Not what job they happen to have.

Pride in any work.

Plus, you can change your job, but a knobhead will always be a knobhead.

Same. Dated for 2 years someone who worked in a chicken processing plant. However, he seemed to have a bee in his bonnet about the fact I was a senior project manager. It was quite odd. He also had zero interest in me as a person even though I knew almost everything about him. In the end broke it off because of his personality being fun and spontaneous one minute then moody and suspicious the next. Wouldn’t put me off dating a NMW worker though if they were interesting, hardworking and respectful!

If he's consistently employed then surely that matters more than what he does for a living?

He's 52

52 and never had more than a minimum wage job?

Does he have DC? How does he support them? Where does he live - this is the big one, especially if you have a nice home...

I'd want to know why. Is it due to being unable to handle stress, lack of motivation or maybe he just loves the job he has. Also what are your expectations of a good life? If I was single and looking for a relationship, I'd want someone who had the means to go travelling, to the theatre, restaurants, days out etc.

As others have said, it really depends on the person and if you are compatible and have similar goals. I wouldn’t rule someone out just on their job.

What sort of background/education does he have? Does he have a degree or qualifications of some sort?

How does he spend his free time? Does that match your interests?

Where does he live? How does he make ends meet if he's only on MW? If you want to eat out/go on holiday, how will the finances of that work?

It wouldnt put me off. I have been there myself. But even though i didnt have a career i made more money than someone in a career. I usually worked two part time jobs, minimum wage. I played with the hours and worked with double holidays. I payed less taxes. It was awesome.