I'm a 40 year old female who has been dating a 46 year old man for 9 weeks who I met online.On the 4th date I told him that I wanted a relationship and he replied he wanted the same and he just wanted to take things slow. All in all he's giving me the impression that he wants a serious relationship. On dates overall he's lovely and I do enjoy his company and he seems to enjoy mine. He definitely listens to what I say as he'll remember things I've said several weeks before, he's affectionate, he's never in a hurry to get from our dates. We normally go out for food in the evening then go for a walk after. The walk is always suggested by him. But on the other side of things he has done or said things I feel isn't nice or right but a friend of mine told me just to take these things with a pinch of salt as it's not often that he's been like it. He always makes the kissing after every date passionate including sucking my lips, on the first date out of the blue he put his finger in my mouth then quickly pulled it back out. This was so random that he could tell by my expression on my face that I was surprised So he apologised, he asked to come back to my place on the 7th date.( By this time I will point out that we had already slept together on the 5th date) I told him he could come back but because I was having a period at that time we won't be having sex. With this he decided to go home so it was clear that it was sex he was after that particular evening. I did express my feelings about this telling him that he didn't exactly make me feel good as it seems that it was the sex he was after that evening. With this he said sorry and went home. The week after (on our 8th date) he brought that situation back up and he apologised and said "I didn't want you to think that I was in it just for the sex that evening as that wasn't the case". If it wasn't just sex he was after that evening then why didn't he just come back to my place anyway? Sounds a little contradicting. With this I forgave him. Later on that evening he brought it up yet again and said that in the future when we have sex he doesn't mind doing it while I am having a period. I told him while I'm having a period we won't be having sex as it would be a little messy. But on the plus side again the two occasions I have stayed over his place he's been so lovely and sweet towards me. The second time I stayed over I woke up at 4am. For an hour I was fidgeting in bed where I couldn't get back to sleep so not to disturb him I went to sit on the sofa in his lounge. He came in not long after to put a blanket over me then he went back to bed. He as done a few other things like this which I find really sweet. I will say that between dates he doesn't text a great deal (which I think might be just his style) and our dates is always once a week on a Friday as that is the day he says he's free due to work, having his children (18 and 13), going to church twice a week and the fact that he likes his down time to himself at the beginning of the week. We do always text each other on Thursday to arrange Fridays date. But the one thing I have noticed is he mostly initiates the conversation but within the conversation he never asks for another date. That's always me. I can understand in the first few weeks as he might not be sure if I'm still interested but after 8 weeks and this still happens. He cancelled what would of been our 9th date saying that it was his weekend to have his children. It definitely was his weekend to have his children so I do believe that but I've got a feeling that he may not of had them on that Friday. In previous weeks when he's had his kids he's always had them on the Saturday and Sunday but it's never effected our date on the Friday. He's a really handsome guy and considering we met online I find it hard to believe I'm the only woman he's dated in about 9 weeks, or at least that's how I'm starting to think. I'm thinking maybe he had another date on that Friday and that's why he cancelled. I'm not sure though if I'm just over thinking this or not. When he cancelled he didn't try to reschedule another date so I asked him about another date. He said the following Friday (tomorrow) he might be able to do but he will confirm closer to that date. Although I will say that he did message Monday just gone to see if I've had a good weekend. We did talk for a while and he said again about confirming about Friday's date. I haven't explained every detail as my message is long enough but I'm not sure if he's A. a man who wants a commited relationship (in the beginning that's the impression he gave me) but now 9 weeks down the line he may of changed his mind, B. he never has been interested (apart from sex) and all is positive sweet behaviour is manipulative tactics to get what he wants or C. he is interested but because he's a divorced man for a year is he just afraid of commitment? Some might say to ask him. But I'm afraid of asking him because IF he is a manipulative man he's hardly going to tell the truth. I will say he is a man that does appear a little on the introverted side.