I feel so confused and so tired. I've been with my fiance for 5.5 years and lately I'm always mad. I love my partner so much and I can hardly imagine my life without him, he's sensitive, kind, loving, and good hearted. When I'm mad at him I feel like the bad guy but if I reflect back on the last few months 9/10 times I've been mad are because he has forgotten something I told him. Here are some examples:
-Asked him to schedule our cat an appointment at "neighborhood next to ours" clinic because I heard it was good and we needed to change vets but he booked in at "our neighborhood" clinic because he thought I meant that one, presumably because it's a few blocks closer.
-Asked on Thursday before if we could go to the zoo on Sunday, he said sounds great and then on Friday told a friend we were free Sunday for DND(<- different versions of this one happen every week)
-Told him I had the day off because I'm taking a coworkers weekend shift twice the night before I was off and then he called me during the day that day and asked when I was done work
-asked him to come get me after work so we can go to the grocery store together, then he calls me from the grocery store asking questions about what to get
-Asked him to straight return 3 picture frames that were too small for the pictures we have and instead he exchanged them for a different colour in the same size
-Night before asked if it was okay to have chili for dinner the next day, he says that sounds great, I put all the ingredients for chili together in the fridge, then the next day I asked him to please start dinner while I was coming home and when I got home he was making chicken
We've had a few serious talks now about how when he forgets the things I tell him it makes me feel unimportant to him and that he needs to engage and listen so he can remember what I say but I haven't seen any change. All of these examples are from the last 2 weeks and there are more even I didn't mention. It is not an exaggeration to say these types of things happen 3 times a week every week. I'm so tired of feeling mad and frustrated and feeling resentment.
I'm seriously considering breaking off our engagement due to this... The thought makes me feel crazy! Like if there's love and he's a good kind person how can I be considering throwing away a whole life of love because of frustration?
Please I just need advice. I feel strongly against talking about negative things about my partner with my family or friends, so I really need someone to talk to because I'm at my wits end here!!! Tell me your story? what would you do? Is this a big deal? Why does he forget everything I say and do stuff half right all the time? Will I regret it if this ends my relationship?