im posting here to mainly just vent, to be honest.
I have a friend who I met on my university course in early 2020. I saw her in person a few times and then everything shut down for Covid and our friendship shifted to be online. We met up a few times in the intervening years but it has largely stayed online due to the fact we live at opposite ends of the country.
at the start of the pandemic she said she had a boyfriend, and things were serious.
she would often say that her dad (who she was living with at the time), had eaten her up. Across the course of the pandemic she told me multiple times she was at the police station, at court, he had been arrested and then eventually she said he had been convicted. It’s important to note that there is no evidence of this conviction anywhere. When googling her dad he’s a local businessman in her area and he regularly posts about his kids on his social media, including her.
In November 2021 I was going through an awful time - my dad was very unwell and my nan was terminally ill. I tried to lean on her for support but she always had excuses, and then on the night my nan was in ICU after surgery, she let me know that she was pregnant and she’d be getting an abortion.
I supported her in this because obviously it was her choice to make. She was very open about what she had been through and posted about it and used it as a way to endorse abortion rights in the UK.
Things seemed to settle down at this point until 2024. We met up to go on a short trip together and she started making horrible comments about my weight, how I looked and everything I did. This continued when we got back and she would regularly refer to me in conversation as “fatty”, “pig” “fat cunt” etc.
ive always been quite open with her about the fact I am insecure about being single. She has always sympathised but late last year she told me she was engaged and had bought a house with a partner she had been with for three years.
this is when I started to realise that nothing she has ever told me has made sense. Three years she told me she was with a guy who she was ending things with because he never makes time for her. The timelines of that old relationship and the new one seemed to overlap and when I confronted her she went from saying she had cheated, to saying things had ended earlier than she told me.
I looked on her social media and although she’s active she hasn’t posted a thing about the engagement or the house. She’s very open and posts about everything so to me this is a red flag. Looking back, everything she has ever told me just doesn’t seem to have happened. I just feel so confused and don’t understand why she’d do this, it’s like she’s lived out some sort of a fantasy world through our friendship, for some sort of sick pleasure. I feel so used and hurt, that someone I have trusted with my own feelings has just been lying the entire time.