my husband comes home last night was super happy, we had a lovely cuddle on the sofa I said I didn’t want sex.
then when I went to bed an hour later he proceeded to say “it’s crazy so many couples break up in the first year of a baby being born”
I asked what does he mean then he proceeded to say oh I am just saying.
I was like ok so I went back to playing my monopoly go on my phone. Then he goes and starts saying how he is miserable even before our son is born. We don’t cuddle anymore.
he then states he wants to go to the gym to work on himself and feel better for his mental health and have something he wants to do.
now I give him lots of chill out time, he has a bath every night he chills in there for 20 mins while I look after our son even though I have done all day.
weekend just gone he washed his car. I ended up having to wash the dogs and look after our son.
we went swimming the three of us and he said he would do the cooking as he loves cooking makes him happy. So I ended up having a shower with our son watching me as I couldn’t leave him on his own as he was irritable.
also I wanted to paint a piece of furniture this weekend and told him on Friday that I wanted to finish so if he can stay with the baby. He said sure but Saturday rolls round and he wants to fix his lawn mower for a few hours so I can’t paint my furniture as I have to look after our 14 week old son.
Now I don’t appreciate him saying he has nothing for himself when he has all that time. I have no time for myself during the day. I interact and play with our son then, when he has his nap he only naps for 20mins so in that 20mins I do housework. So I really never have a break.
also we don’t have money at the moment, I don’t even have money to buy a correctly fitting bra and I am very unhappy in myself because of it. But we need to pay bills so I get on with it. Yet he can go and get a gym membership.
I just feel I want to have a break because I can’t make him happy anymore and it’s so much pressure on me and he doesn’t appreciate half of what I do for him.
should I take a break? Also should I ask him m to leave our house or should I live with our son to my parents house?