do people think this is wrong at Christmas?
I lost my beloved dad earlier this year after a short illness. We have invited my mum to ours for Christmas, but she has decided to visit my sister who lives abroad. I get it as she says she wants it to be completely different from previous Christmases and thinks being at home or at my house which is close to hers, will be hard without dad.
this means that I will spend Xmas at home with my dcs and dh, just the four of us. I think it’s going to be a sad day for me but hopefully we will still make it nice for the dcs (teens).
PILs are now asking about our plans. They haven’t invited us to theirs, I think they are just trying to suss out what our plans are, and not sure if they were angling for an invite to us. For the last few years they have tended to have Xmas on their own as they live a couple of hours way and they have fancy not typically Xmas food (think lobster, oysters, champagne) and then we see Them at new year or another time over the holidays. Dh wondered about inviting them so that it won’t just be us at home and it would be nicer for the dcs to have other family around. I can’t see what he means but I am wary. They are emotionally unavailable and if I get myself upset on Xmas day, which is likely, they won’t be supportive at all, they just won’t know what to say, and it will be awkward. Their lack of support in this respect upset me when I lost my dad and I do now find spending time with them quite difficult. It sound awful but I find it hard seeing them as it’s a reminder that dh still has his family “in tact” whilst mine isn’t and I know they won’t ever love me or even like me in the way my dad did. But then I worry about the the DCs and whether it is right to keep them from their gps at Christmas when we could easily invite them.
what would others do in this situation?