I don't know if I'm being petty and insecure. There are times where I feel like my mother in law throws subtle jabs at me, she might be doing it unconsciously. Maybe it has nothing to do with me. (I know know). She always goes on about how my sister in law( married to my husbands older brother) loves her husband. Ooh she loves her husband so much. I have been with my husband since I was 15. I adore him, I wouldn't have married him and had two kids with him if that was not the case. I support and validate him. We a good team and have a good friendship. I'm a SAHM, currently studying. SIL is very demonstrative, posts the husband almost everyday. And I mean literally. Never ever posts herself alone. It's either a pic of them together or him alone. Every day! She doesn't have friends, at all, does everything with the husband. The husband aswell. ( her marriage is her whole identity)and I think my MIL finds that so loving. I on the other hand, I'm not so big on posting, I do post pics of us but not frequently. I have friends, don't see them alot due to my studies and just busy family life, but I try and make time to spend with them.
When we all together( my in laws)
, SIL will talk about how she loves her husband, how she would be lost without him. Like all the time!.. If she posts something and I'm with MIL, she will show me and say look at this, she loves her husband so so much. This makes me feel so inedequate.
What does that even mean. Do I not love your son aswell? Am I not good enough? It's getting me so down that I'm starting to be irritable when I'm around them.
It was my sister's in law ( bridal shower) a few weeks back. I put in alot of work to help, so did my SIL. When they event ended my MIL mentioned how SIL worked so hard.
I dread having them around. I subconsciously compare myself now and that tension in me ends up with me being very short with my husband. Am I crazy for feeling the way I'm feeling