Dumbed on Anniversary of death - A bit evil ?

[jonathanwoss]

So I have had a lovely person come into my life for the last 4 months. We clicked so well, we have so much common (age/ my child is same as hers/same outlook on life /good sex/ grew up in the same town,you name it, it kinda of felt too good to be true )

A bit rocky since Monday but nothing too much ,and on Thursday it was my mother's anniversary of death , I get very emotional around this time because of the events surrounding her death were traumatic to me; I do not even go to work every year.

This person knew for early on and Thursday morning I received the most beautiful flowers , framed photo of her and the best thoughtful message someone could master. Nice touch

Later that evening while our with family for the anniversary I receive : I have just been thinking about our relationship ,I don't think this will work out. Delete my number please .

I am so baffled , bothered ,hurt and any other negative feelings one can feel.

It could have waited til tomorrow ,like what kind of person is this ?

Are people really this evil? Not even sure what I am trying to get out of this post but I just feel like I need a whole year to recover from this .

I know one person who would do things exactly this way, and deliberately.
They are an ex-of-a-friend, and are totally messed up.
You have probably dodged a bullet, OP.
It wasn't you, it was all about them.

You didn’t do anything wrong. Read my last post and look it up. Love bombing. Making something about them

Just to say ... I once told her I would like to frame the picture and I think it was very thoughtful as this is a convo I had with her on week 1.

Ah okay. That was probably intended to be kind then. I still think they behaved in an unkind manner towards you. I hope you are feeling okay now and I'm sorry you had that experience.

Ooookay not surprising you're feeling hurt. This was a bizarre juxtaposition of extremely kind and thoughtful (slightly unusually so for 4 months) and then bloody awful timing especially as she knew it was a difficult day for you. (sympathies - even after many years, I dip badly around the anniversary of my adoptive mum's death).

Painful, but you may have had a lucky escape.

@Gofaster2023 @ReleaseTheDucksOfWar

Worst timing indeed and I am still In shock . Not response ever since so I am just trying to move on by occupying myself .

I can't come back from it ..I know next year on that special day I will think of this horrible person again.

Never will I allow someone in emotionally so quick .

Ex boyfriend texted you from her phone?

I don’t think you can assume that you did anything wrong. It could be their own feelings that came up.

I don’t think it would be unreasonable to text back.

“Of course I will respect your wishes and delete your number. Your message came very much out of the blue, and just after I had just received your thoughtful gift.”

I will say that calling it 'evil' is strong. She might also not be horrible as such - just a somewhat odd mix of thoughtful and insensitive. People like that do exist !