Clares Law - Ex not agreeing to do checks on new BF

[BarackOsama]

So a quick question on what you suggest I do about this:

Ex has a history of dating people that are just the type most would not bring home(her words, me not included). Both of her last 2 partners ended up having very high alarming past that Clares law reviewed(she is a bit lazy to do the process with urgency so I did it each time after a battle to get information from her).

Now I have asked her to do a clares law/sarah's law on her current guy who I just found out has just been introduced to our daughter who is 5( one of 2 kids).

She is flat out refusing to give me his name/date of birth for the sake of safeguarding our child.

What do you suggest I do in this case? I just know his first name

And what did she do when you have previously presented her with the outcome of the application?

Dont panic op/stress. Time will reveal his name. Sounds like shes hiding something tho, she already knows hes bad news. Could you have child living at yours?

You don’t need to know DOB

you do need

• **the full name and any previous names of the person you're applying to find out about (in the request process this person is known as the 'subject')
• the current address and any previous addresses in the last five years for the subject
• we’ll ask you, as part of your request, how you’d like to be contacted. We’ll only contact you that way. We’ll also ask about when it’s best to contact you, eg dates and times.

if you think either have social media, set up some new random named accounts with new email addresses to see if you can track them down? Look on friends lists on socials, likes on profile pictures etc. good luck op

It backfired on her each time, one ended in domestic violence against her in front of the kids and he spend time in jail over this just less than 2 years ago
the 2dn ended in him cheating and leaving just after 6 months

She is one of those who just do not take a lesson from bad decisions and I care for my children's safety.

How many threads have you put up about your ex now at this point? Seriously you cannot control what she does and who she sees. Yes shes making bad choices but you are obsessed with her at this point.

There are 7.5 billion people in the world and you chose this chaos?!
Have a very good word with yourself.

Contact your local police. They may not need all of the information. He will likely be identifiable with what you have if he is known

If your ex is choosing a line of unsafe partners, I presume you're in the process of getting custody of the children?

Why are people bashing this man. She’s ok her 3rd undesirable partner since they broke up and had already exposed her kids to danger. Shes not protecting her kids and is clearly pittting men above them! He’s being a good dad! Oh the amount of weirdo boyfriends my mums had! Women get so desperate it’s pathetic

This made me giggle 🤣. Believe me ,I regret it

Unfortunately there are two ways this goes. Either you’re doing these Clares law checks to control your ex’s dating life (it doesn’t sound like she’s acting on the info anyway) or you’re deeply concerned about the safety of your child. If it’s the first, you just need to stop and accept it’s over. If it’s the second, and you have seen any evidence that is cause for concern about this new bloke, then bypass the clares law checks and report your ex to social services for bringing DV blokes into the house with a child. They will take this very seriously if there is evidence that he’s a wrongun. But don’t do it vexatiously because that will backfire on you. So think about your motivations here and take the appropriate action.