Feeling guilty for wanting a seperation

[Sazla83]

My spouse (M) and I (F) have been together 11 years and married for 6. We have worked through so much such as lockdown and infidelity and now have a 2yo.

For the last year we have had lots of issues. The arguments are getting worse and I am constantly angry with him. I suffer from terrible anxiety which in his words tells me I ‘shouldn’t be doing this to him’

On the other hand he constantly tells me how much he loves and needs me. He’s a great father and we have a great friendship ie WhatsApp all day and joke about current affairs.

I want a life now with my child and I and for us to part but as soon as I raise the subject he turns on the water works and tells me he can’t live without me.

I feel so guilty for feeling like this and breaking apart our little family but since I’ve decided on the break my anxiety has disappeared and I feel really positive about life.

Am I doing the right thing?

Has anyone else been through this?

If you want to separate, for whatever reason, you don't need permission. If you don't love him and want to be with him, that is reason enough. You will have to stand firm, stay calm and tell him it's over and there is no going back. I'm sure it is going to be difficult and unpleasant and that you will feel bad that the break up is causing him pain. In time, hopefully he will realise that it is better for both of you. Get yourself some legal advice asap.

I am in the same position ❤️ no advice for you but you’re not the only one!

Thank you both. It’s tearing me apart but I’ve made my decision and I’m going to stick with it